I keep secrets for a living. That’s more or less what a therapist does. But in my personal life, I don’t want anything to do with them. I don’t find delight in them whatsoever. To me, they’re an imposition. Humans are hardwired to feel valued when someone confides in us. It scratches an evolutionary itch that can leave us feeling bonded to the person who shared the secret. But that’s only the case when the secret doesn’t directly impact you. There’s an old expression: “You’re only as sick as your secrets.”In this episode, you’ll learn:The difference between being “private” and keeping a secret.The types of secrets that are most damaging to your mental health. The surprising amount of secrets the average person keeps.AND… I share the reason why I refuse to be on the receiving end of secrets in my personal life.Xxoo DarcyREFERENCESCategories of secretsThe Bright Side of Secrecy: The Energizing Effect of Positive Secrets It takes two (or more): The social nature of secretsWhat you don't know might hurt me: Keeping secrets in interpersonal relationshipshttps://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/09/hidden-world-secretshttps://www.columbia.edu/~ms4992/secrets/keepingsecrets.htmlCREDITSThis episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. DISCLAIMER#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice#RelationshipExperts #RealTalkRelationships #Secrets #Secret #FamilySecret #FamilySecrets #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy#Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcyInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling Twitter:@DrDarcySterling YouTube:@DarcySterling Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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