Listener Subscriptionhttps://weneedtotalkwithdrdarcysterling.supercast.com/You didn’t outgrow the drama. You outgrew the discomfort — and now your life reflects it.If protecting yourself keeps costing you people, that’s not self-respect.In this episode, I examine how self-protection can quietly turn into relational withdrawal — not through dramatic exits, but through small, repeated acts of disengagement.Avoidance rarely announces itself. It disguises itself as maturity. As boundaries. As emotional intelligence. As “protecting your peace.” And in the moment, it works. Your nervous system settles. The tension drops. Relief arrives.But nothing replaces what you stepped away from.I’m talking about the unanswered text. The conversation you let die. The misunderstanding you didn’t correct. The moment you told yourself it wasn’t worth the energy. Over time, those small decisions accumulate — and your world gets smaller. Fewer invitations. Fewer conversations that matter. Fewer moments where you feel known.Not because people rejected you. Because opting out became your most practiced skill.In this episode, I break down:The difference between regulation and avoidanceHow short-term relief creates long-term disconnectionWhy discomfort is not the same as dangerWhat staying present actually requiresThis isn’t about abandoning boundaries. It’s about asking whether “peace” has quietly become isolation.REFERENCES/RESOURCESwww.alternativescounsleing.comCREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen. DISCLAIMERInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling X:@DrDarcySterling YouTube:@DarcySterling Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube. Listener Subscriptionhttps://weneedtotalkwithdrdarcysterling.supercast.com/

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