What Would My Shrink Say?

Rules about emotions and behavior?

08 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the assumptions and rules we put on what emotions we should feel and what we are/aren't capable of when we feel them.

How to Respond to Passive-Aggressive Behavior

31 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss productive ways to respond when you suspect someone is being passive-aggressive.

Connectedness and Independence

24 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss balancing the needs of independence and connection in relationships.

Are my kids going to inherit my issues?

17 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss how children may be impacted by the behaviors and habits of their parents.

Do you Deserve it?

10 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the concept of deserving; Do you deserve more? Do you not deserve what you have?

Imposter Syndrome: Are you really that good?

03 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the anxiety that comes from the idea that you're gonna be found out!

How's that Social Media working for you?

26 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the pitfalls and benefits of Social Media and how to improve your online experience.

How Indecision Kills Your Confidence

19 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the impact or perseverating on your overall confidence.

Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop

12 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the consequences of presuming things will not go well.

Making Assertive Requests In Your Relationships

05 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the advantages of assertive requests in relationships; pointers and pitfalls.

Motivation-what it is and what it isn't

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the concept of Motivation and how to think of it more functionally.

That's just who I am

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the how our shortcomings and struggles often become part of our identity.

Do you expereince FOMO?

15 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duyen and Todd discuss the Fear Of Missing Out, and how comparisons impact how you experience life.

The Need for Closure

10 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Duyen discuss the concept of "need for closure".

Has your therapist expereinced what you're going through?

17 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Duyen discuss a common question clients have- Have you been through this?

Help, Boundaries cause Massive Guilt

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Duyen discuss the process of managing your guilt after you have respected your boundaries!

Productivity Anxiety

01 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Duyen discuss the strategy of keeping busy to avoid __________. 

How Shame and Guilt Hide Learning

28 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Duyen discuss how patterns of Shame and Guilt may keep us stuck.

Update!

21 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

An update on the podcast!

How to Let Go of Long-Term Relationships

14 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss healthy ways to let go of long-term relationships.

Judgementalness

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology behind the mental habit of judging. 

How to Cope with Other People's Anxiety

30 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss effective ways to handle other people's anxiety.

Why Do I Feel So Needy?

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss neediness: what is, why it happens, and what to do about it.----This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Find a great therapist ...

The Emotional Benefits of Boredom

16 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how boredom can be extremely useful from an emotional and mental health perspective.----This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp....

Overwhelm

09 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the ins and out of being overwhelmed.----This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Find a great therapist who's great for you. Li...

Do I Really Need to Be Emotionally Available?

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss emotional availability: what is it, what's the point, and how to cultivate it.----This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Find ...

Reassurance-Seeking

26 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss why reassurance-seeking is such a bad habit to get into and what to do about it if you are.----This episode is sponsored by Bett...

Worry Much?

19 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss worry and its effect on our experiences, or lack thereof. 

Why Some Habits Are So Hard to Change

13 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the difficulties of changing habits and developing better patterns.

Excessive Apologizing

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss why excessive apologizing is a bit, well... excessive.

Coloring Books for Anxiety?

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the usefulness of adult coloring books for anxiety.

Doing Nothing Is a Better Option Than You Think

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss why doing nothing is often the best option you can choose.

How to Get Over Resentment

14 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to get over resentment.

How to Forgive Yourself for Past Mistakes

07 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to forgive yourself.

How to Get More Motivated

01 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the tricky psychology of motivation and how to get more of it.

Resignation vs Acceptance

24 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss resignation vs acceptance.

Emotional Curiosity

17 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss emotional curiosity.

Do we attract certain 'types'?

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss whether people attract specific 'types' or not.

Social Anxiety

03 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss social anxiety.

How helpful are your expectations, really?

27 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about expectations.

How to Spot Emotional Immaturity

20 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to spot the signs of emotional immaturity.

How to Deal with Other People's Bad Moods

13 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss helpful ways to deal with other people's bad moods.

Are You Aversively or Appetitively Motivated?

06 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss whether it's better to be appetitively or aversively motived?

Processing Painful Memories

29 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss processing difficult emotions.

Overthinking and the Law of Diminishing Returns

25 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd chat about overthinking and its relationship to the law of diminishing returns.

Why We Avoid Difficult Choices

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd take on why we avoid difficult choices and the consequences that often result.

Catastrophizing

18 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss catastrophizing.

How to Deal with Rigid People

15 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to deal with rigid people.

Health Anxiety

11 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss health anxiety.

Self-Experimentation

08 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the benefits of self-experimentation.

What Your Emotions DON'T Mean

04 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss common misconceptions about emotions and what they do and don't mean.

Can You Learn to Love Something You Hate?

01 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the extent to which we can learn to love things we hate.

Addiction to Thinking

28 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the idea of an addiction to thinking.

Is Procrastination Just a Values Problem?

25 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the possibility that procrastination is essentially a values problem.

The Right Way to Have a Panic Attack

21 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss what people get wrong in their approach to panic attacks and why the right way to handle them is counterintuitive.

Is Venting Your Problems Helpful?

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss whether is a good idea to vent your problems to other people.

How to Deal with Feeling Worthless

14 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss worthlessness and how to deal with it.

The 5 Love Languages

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick has strong feelings about the 5 Love Languages.

The Right Way to Manage Intrusive Thoughts

07 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to deal with negative intrusive thoughts in a healthy way.

The Busyness Trap

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the Busyness Trap.

How to Cope with Narcissistic People in Your Life

30 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to cope with narcissistic people in your life.

Stressor Management

27 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the crucial difference between managing your stress and managing your stressors.

Is love an emotion?

23 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss whether love is an emotion or something else.

The Worry Illusion

20 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the Worry Illusion.

How to Manage Traumatic Memories

16 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about how to handle traumatic memories in a healthy way.

Resilience Pt 2: How to Be More Resilient

13 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about how to be more resilient.

Resilience Pt 1: What Is Resilience?

09 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about what resilience really means.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

06 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss setting healthy boundaries.

How to Let Things Go

02 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to finally let go of painful feelings, memories, grudges, or beliefs.

Is the Myers-Briggs Personality Test Legit?

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Talk discuss how "legit" or not the Myers-Briggs personality inventory really is.

How to Deal with Your Unrealistic Expectations

26 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the dangers of unrealistic expectations.

Midnight Insomnia

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Todd asks Nick for some tips to help his client who wakes up in the middle of the night and can't fall back to sleep.

How to Cope with Romantic Rejection

19 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to cope with romantic rejection.

The Anxiety-Depression Connection

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the strange relationship between anxiety and depression.

Can You Be Too Self-Aware?

12 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd break down a listener question: Can you be too self-aware?

Compulsive Achievement

09 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology behind compulsive achievement.

How to Ask For What You Want

05 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to assertively ask for what you want.

Passive-Aggressive Much?

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about the psychology behind passive-aggressive behavior.

The Fundamental Attribution Error

26 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the fundamental attribution error.

Building Confidence While Staying Humble

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to build confidence while staying humble.

When Is a Relationship Good Enough?

19 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to tell if a relationship is "good enough."

Victimhood

12 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss victimhood.

Morning Dread

05 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss "morning dread" and what you can do to stop it.

Helping Others Help Themselves

29 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick discuss the most effective ways to help other help themselves.

Why You Take Things Too Personally

22 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss why some of us take things too personally + and some tips for doing it less.

Neuroticism

15 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss neuroticism.

When Is It Time to End a Relationship?

08 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss thinking through whether it's time to end a serious relationship.

What Is Personality, Exactly?

01 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss what personality really means.

Am I a Narcissist?

27 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd answer a listener question about how to know if you're a narcissist or not; and if you are, can you change?

Making Hard Decisions As a Couple

18 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd answer a listener about how couples can get better at making major life decisions together.

Adult Children Living at Home

11 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd answer a listener's question about the challenges of living with adult children.

People Pleasing

04 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick discuss the psychology behind people pleasing.

Can You Think Too Much About Feelings?

27 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about whether you can think too much about how you feel.

Codependency

20 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick talk about codependency.

The Psychology of Blame

13 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick discuss the psychology of blame.

Courage vs. Confidence

06 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the critical difference between courage and confidence and why it matters for mental health.

How to Handle Other People's Defensiveness

30 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to handle other people's defensiveness.

How to Stop Being So Defensive

23 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about some tips for how to stop being so defensive.

Do You Trust Yourself?

16 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd tackle a strange question: Do you trust yourself?

Emotional Maturity

09 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss what it means to be emotionally mature.