When You Don’t Know
Episodes
137. You May Be Underestimating the Good Traits
17 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
So many people with relationship anxiety are focused on the wrong things in their relationship.We can get so caught up in chemistry, certainty, and wh...
136. Is God really telling you to break up with your partner?
03 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever felt a sudden “voice” telling you to break up, and it came with guilt, fear, or shame, this episode is for you.In this conversati...
135. How to Talk to Your Partner About Relationship Anxiety
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
👉 If you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD, one of the hardest questions is:“How do I tell my partner what’s going on in my head… wi...
134. When the Prophetic Becomes Harmful in Relationships
03 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
The prophetic is often presented as a reliable way to discern relationships — but for many people, it becomes a source of fear, control, and harm.In...
133. When Spiritual Authority Replaces Discernment
20 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when spiritual advice about your relationship leaves you feeling anxious, confused, or afraid of getting it wrong?In this episode of Wh...
132. When You Don’t Know If Your Callings Align
06 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You’re in a relationship, but you’re unsure if your callings align.“What if this means we’re not meant to be together?”“What if I’m miss...
131. The Cost of Anxiety: What It Steals From You and Your Relationship
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Relationship anxiety doesn’t just make you overthink — it takes things from you.Your confidence.Your peace.Your ability to enjoy your relationship...
130. Imperfect Love Stories: From Anxiously Dating to Happily Married
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when two best friends start to fall for each other… but one of them is battling intense relationship anxiety?In today’s episode, we s...
129. How to Finally Break the Cycle of Relationship Anxiety
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve been stuck in an anxious loop about your relationship — constantly questioning your feelings, your partner, or whether you’re in God’...
128. Imperfect Love Stories: Marrying Someone Who’s Divorced and Has Kids
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What’s it really like to marry someone who’s been married before… and already has kids?In this week’s Imperfect Love Stories, we’re talking ...
127. Conrad or Jeremiah? Breaking Down The Summer I Turned Pretty from a Relationship Anxiety Angle
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you Team Conrad or Team Jeremiah? In this episode, we break down The Summer I Turned Pretty love triangle from the perspective of a marriage and f...
126. When You Don’t Know if God Has Something Better for You
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
“Does God really take away something you love because He has something better?”This idea has shaped so much of modern Christian dating culture —...
125. Did I Make a Mistake? Anxiety After Marriage
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You got married and thought the anxiety would go away—but the doubts are still here.“What if I made a mistake?”“What if this wasn’t God’s ...
124. Life Update: It’s Been a Difficult Month
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re opening up about some of the heavy things we’ve walked through over the past month. Honestly, we almost didn’t share this...
123. Debunking the “Counterfeit Spouse” Myth
03 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever heard someone say the person you’re dating might be a counterfeit — someone sent by the enemy to distract you from “God’s best”...
122. How your Expectations are Ruining Your Dating Life
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore how idealized expectations around love, faith, and life can lead to anxiety and doubt in your relationship. If your curren...
121. Red Flag or Just a Difference?
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever wonder if the differences between you and your partner are red flags—or just normal, human differences? In this episode, I’m breaking ...
120. Our Real Walk With God as a Married Couple
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re getting real about what our walk with God looks like as a married couple—and how it doesn’t match the polished image a lo...
119. Imperfect Love Stories: My Anxiety Left After We Got Married
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we interview one of the many people who has worked with us. Like us, she used to struggle with relationship anxiety but her healing j...
118. How Relationship Anxiety Is Physically Damaging Your Brain
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We feel it’s important for people to know that the thoughts you dwell on are physically changing your brain. It’s important to understand that we ...
117. If You’re Looking for a Sign from God in Your Relationship
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We hope this episode was helpful for you.If you’d like to join our next group coaching round:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Pniujubz/checkoutI...
116. What’s Life Like After Overcoming Relationship Anxiety
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we share about our personal experience after we overcame relationship anxiety and got married. We’re answering the question: is it ...
115. Is Getting Back with Your Ex a Good Idea if You Have/Had Relationship Anxiety?
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Long title but we thought this was an interesting topic. We do know it’s very niche but we hope you find this helpful!If you’d like to work with u...
114. Should I Break Up or Seek Help?
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a question we often get, especially from people who struggle with relationship anxiety. That’s why we decided to do a podcast on it.We hope ...
113. Our Story: How We Overcame Relationship Anxiety and Got Married
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We actually never sat down and told our whole story. So we thought doing that would be a great way to start 2025. We hope this is helpful and inspiri...
112. Is My Relationship Anxiety Triggered By My Family?
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Family is an interesting topic. We love them but sometimes they also can cause us to get triggered and when we have relationship anxiety, it can feel ...
111. My Friends Keep Telling Me My Relationship Is Wrong. What Do I Do?
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Relationship anxiety is a tricky topic and if you suffer from it, you might have shared with your friends but every time you do it you get triggered b...
110. Am I Micro Cheating On My Partner?
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Some of you have reached out to us wondering about this topic. We’ve noticed people put a lot of unrealistic expectations and pressure on themselves...
109. Imperfect Love Stories: I Married The Guy I Didn’t Want
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We apologize for the quality of the audio but if you’re willing to look past it, you’ll hear amazing wisdom from this couple’s story.Their story...
108. How To Choose Your Spouse God’s Way
24 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is a topic we’ve been wanting to cover for a while and I hope you find it helpful.Don’t hesitate to reach out to us about podcast topics at h...
107. Imperfect Love Stories: I Ended Up Marrying The Unexpected
10 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We had the privilege of hosting Kait and JJ Tomlin from the Heart Of Dating podcast to share more about their love story and how dating the unexpected...
106. What If My Partner And I Are Unequally Yoked?
27 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a lot of misconceptions around the topic of being unequally yoked and that’s what we’re addressing in this episode.We hope this is helpf...
105. Imperfect Love Stories: Does He Like Someone Else?
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
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104. Q&A: What If I Find My Partner Annoying?
30 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we answer a few questions you asked us on Instagram! We hope this is helpful! 1:1 coaching with Joy: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3N...
103. Imperfect Love Stories: Married For 32 Years, This Is What We've Learned
16 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
One of the couples that inspires us so much sat down with us to share their wisdom after 32 years of marriage! We hope you enjoy this episode! Stace...
102. Imperfect Love Stories: We Almost Broke Up Because Of Relationship Anxiety!
02 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re starting a new series where we interview couples that are married but who have gone through hardships like relationship anxie...
101. Four Things Marriage Taught Us
18 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching application: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/XEWNzBJ 1:1 coaching with Joy: https://gz43pjtl2n...
100. Big Update For The Podcast
04 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching application: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/XEWNzBJb 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: h...
99. Stop Chasing Feelings
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching application: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/XEWNzBJb 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: h...
98. How To Build Emotional Resilience
14 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching waitlist: https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/mentorship 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: htt...
97. Your Relationship Isn’t Wrong, Your Expectations Are
07 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We hope you enjoy this episode! Group coaching waitlist: https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/mentorship 1:1 coaching application with Mathieu: htt...
96. Is My Partner Going To Take God’s Place In My Life?
30 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of Christians are worried about their love for their partner taking the place of their love for God. If that’s what you’re wondering about, ...
95. What If I’m Not Obsessed With My Partner?
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of people come up to us and worry about the fact that they’re not constantly thinking about their partner and if that means they don’t truly...
94. When Should You Know You Want To Marry Them?
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we respond to one of our followers questions about marriage. A lot of people have different opinions on this and unfortunately some o...
93. Are You Settling For Less In Your Relationship?
09 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we react to tour reel a lot of our followers were triggered by. Basically, in that reel, someone explains they almost missed out on m...
92. How Prepared Should You Be To Date?
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This was a question we received in our emails a couple weeks ago and we thought it would be an amazing topic. We hope this is helpful and if you’d l...
91. Should It Be This Hard?
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
That’s a question we often get when it comes to relationship anxiety. If your relationship is good, why is it that it is so hard when you have anxie...
90. Stepping Into The Unknown In Relationships
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A big part of committing to a relationship is the fear of the unknown, the fear that maybe something will go wrong, that we’ll end up in marriage th...
89. Are You Uncomfortable With The Opposite Gender?
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We decided to share about this topic because we receive a lot of questions or concerns about people interacting with the opposite gender, especially i...
88. How Does Relationship Anxiety Show Up in “Love Is Blind Season 6”
05 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Mathieu and I enjoy watching Love Is Blind even though we definitely see the flaws in the show. Despite that, we notice a lot of the candidates strugg...
87. What Can We Learn From Reesa Teesa’s story?
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve been on TikTok during the past 2 weeks, you’ve probably heard of Reesa Teesa. We’ve listened to the whole story and that’s why we de...
86. How to Manage Anxiety on Valentine’s Day
13 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we give you a few recommendations if you struggle with relationship anxiety as Valentine’s Day is coming up. We hope this is helpfu...
85. Are You Addicted To Anxiety?
06 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The sound a bit different in this episode because we ran into some difficulties so we apologize. We hope you still enjoy it because we believe some of...
84. Is Your Relationship Too Good to Be True?
30 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the importance of believing that you are worthy of receiving good things. Unfortunately, a lot of people self sabotage the...
83. Divorce and Relationship Anxiety
23 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the normalization of divorce in today’s society and how that can influence your perspective of relationships and ultimat...
82. Are You Single and Anxious About Relationships?
16 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We tend to discuss anxiety in the midst of a relationship but it’s important to talk about it when we’re single as well. So many people are stuck ...
81. Guilt And Relationship Anxiety
09 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we share about the worst thing that can increase your relationship anxiety even more even though so many of us believe guilt is somet...
80. Three Things To Leave Behind In 2024 If You Have Relationship Anxiety
02 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Here are three things you need to leave behind you if you want to thrive in your relationship: comparison, doubts and low self-esteem. Listen to this ...
79. The Two Different Types of Relationship Anxiety
19 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the two different kinds of RA: the one that pushes you to leave and the one that pushes you to stay. This is more of an in...
78. Dating Advice You Can’t Listen to When You Have Relationship Anxiety
12 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss some the worst advice you might receive when you struggle with relationship anxiety. Whether it’s your friends, family o...
77. Things We Often Hear That Are Ruining Relationships
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the top three things we hear about relationships on social media, podcasts, etc that we believe are truly harming relation...
76. We Answer Your Questions About Relationship Anxiety Part 2.
21 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A couple weeks ago, we asked you on our Instagram to share your questions with us. You guys definitely showed up and we thank you so much for that. W...
75. We Answer Your Questions About Relationship Anxiety Part 1.
14 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A couple weeks ago, we asked you on our Instagram to share your questions with us. You guys definitely showed up and we thank you so much for that. W...
74. I Don't Have Peace About My Relationship, What Do I Do?
07 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Peace is a controversial topic for us. If you don't have peace about your relationship, this episode is for you. We hope this is helpful and if y...
73. Mistakes We Made When We Were Experiencing Relationship Anxiety
31 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we go back in time and share the mistakes we made when we were dating and had relationship anxiety. We obviously made it despite thos...
72. You're Not Alone
24 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we just wanted to encourage all those who struggle with relationship anxiety. Know that you are not alone and that we went through th...
71. Love Is Blind, Relationship Anxiety and Marriage
17 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we react to the last season of the Netflix Show ''Love Is Blind''. A lot of interesting things relating to relationsh...
70. How To Date Without Leading Someone On
10 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we answer one of our followers' question about dating and leading on the other person. We discuss the balance needed in that area...
69. Is It Okay To Be Attracted To Other People Than Your Partner?
03 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we answer one of our follower's question regarding attraction in relationship. We've all asked ourselves where the line is wh...
68. How Hollywood/Disney Influences Our View Of Relationships
19 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss how relationships have been portrayed in the entertainment industry and how that has influenced our culture in a bad way. ...
67. Confusion Doesn't Require Action
12 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the last episode, we talked about how anxiety requires action. What we mean isn't that you need to act on what your anxiety is telling you to d...
66. Healing From Anxiety Requires Action
05 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we share one aspect of anxiety that is not often talked about: action. Most of us know anxiety is mostly a mind game but to be able ...
65. The Importance Of Community When You Have Relationship Anxiety
29 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we share how being surrounded by trustworthy friends and mentors was crucial for us when we were struggling with relationship anxiety...
64. Life Updates and Lessons From Past Few Months!!
22 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we share about new big projects that we will do in the next few months as well as the life lessons we learned though the process of a...
63. What To Do If Your Partner Struggles With Porn? Part 2.
15 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We've talked about our journey with porn and masturbation before but in this series, we wanted to give more practical tools if you or your partner...
62. What To Do If Your Partner Struggles With Porn? Part 1.
08 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We've talked about our journey with porn and masturbation before but in this series, we wanted to give more practical tools if you or your partner...
61. How To Handle Your Partner's Relationship Anxiety?
01 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We often talk about what it's like to experience relationship anxiety but in this episode we decided to discuss how it feels for the person who is...
60. What To Do When Your Partner Wants To Take a Break?
18 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we share our thoughts on breaks. We know it's a sensitive topic and that's why we thought it was important to share our opini...
59. Why Do You Back Out When Someone Is Interested?
11 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself backing out of a relationship you've been pursuing once the person you're talking with is finally interested in y...
58. How To Not Feel Ashamed When Experiencing Relationship Anxiety
04 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we talk about one of the most important tools that helped us break through from relationship anxiety. Compassion for ourselves is ne...
57. The Difference Between Appreciating and Being Attracted to Someone
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss another topic that seems to be a struggle. While it is possible to be attracted and to appreciate someone at the same tim...
56. The Difference Between Anxiety and Intuition in Relationships
20 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We've received a lot of messages on social media from people asking us how to distinguish between anxiety and intuition in their relationships as ...
55. Relationship Anxiety In The Talking/Dating Phase
13 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we talk about what relationship anxiety looks like in the talking/dating phase of a relationship. It showed up differently for us wh...
54. Q&A (Relationship Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Etc)
06 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we took the time to answer the questions you asked us on Instagram and it was very interesting. We hope this Q&A is helpful for...
53. What is Relationship Anxiety & Why Does It Show Up?
16 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hello C&C Fam! So glad to have you back for another episode. This episode is a replay of a live I just did with another therapist for mental healt...
52. Are You Anxious Or Simply Uninterested?
09 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We have received a few questions about this topic on our Instagram lately. Some people are trying to discern if they have relationship anxiety or if ...
51. How To Live Life To The Fullest
02 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we branched out a little bit from our relationship topics but we do believe this will be helpful and necessary in that context as wel...
50. Can You Be a Powerful Woman in a Relationship?
25 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Can you be a BIG, POWERFUL woman and have a man take you seriously as a partner? Powerful women are prone to shrink down and limit who they are so the...
49. The Power Of Vulnerability In Relationships
18 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You love what you know and there's no better way to know someone than being vulnerable with them and your connection with your partner can only go...
48. Everything Is Permissible But Not Everything Is Beneficial
11 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the boundaries that need to be implemented in order to put yout relationship first. Sometimes, those boundaries can seem ...
47. Building a Business As a Married Couple
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We often hear that it's not good to work with family but what if you're meant to do that. In this episode, we talk about our journey building ...
46. How To Keep The Flame Burning in Your Relationship
28 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hey y'all! When we start a relationship, It's easy to go with the flow and not put effort towards keeping the spark but real love is an intent...
45. Is Jealousy Healthy In A Relationship?
21 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hey C&C Fam! In this episode, we talk about if jealousy is something that is needed in a healthy relationship and what that looks like when it sho...
44. What Changed When We Got Married
14 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss how marriage changed us. When 2 people come together, their lives rub on each other and causes them to change. It's a beau...
43. How a Good Foundation Creates a Healthy Relationship
07 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hey fam! In this episode we talk about how necessary it is to build strong and healthy core beliefs in order to succeed in relationships, and how not ...
42. Stop Saying These Things To Your Partner!
28 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hey C&C fam! Welcome back! In this episode, we're talking about things you should not say to your partner. When we get frustrated or upset, it's e...
41. How to Be on the Same Team Within Your Relationship
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to the C&C Podcast! In this episode, we discuss what it means for us to be on the same team in our marriage, and how to adjust the wa...
40. How to Not Be Desperate in Your Dating Life
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Valentine's Day!! In this episode, we talk about the difference between pursuing someone from an empowered place vs pursuing out of desperation....
39. Sex and Marriage
07 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hey C&C fam! In this episode, we are talking about sex within marriage and our journey with this topic. We discuss how we chose to remain connecte...
38. Sex, Dating And Boundaries
31 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hey y'all!! In this 3rd episode of our sex series, we talk about what sex looked like for us when we were dating (spoiler alert: there was none 😝) ...