Nate and I celebrated 8 years together yesterday, and I wanted to take some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in our time together. The 8 lessons I explore in more detail are: The more we resist feeling “bad”—the more we suffer. The more we accept feeling “bad”—the sooner it will come and go It’s much easier to look at the ways our partner is lacking than to turn inward and see our own shortcomings Don’t sweep things under the rug, but don’t spend excessive time thinking and thinking and thinking about them either Make the unspoken spoken Trust that your partner has positive or neutral intentions–they are not trying to hurt you Wedding planning doesn’t have to be stressful or magical, it can be whatever you make it. The messy, boring, hard moments don’t make it to someone’s social media page 99% of the time—but they’re part of being human. Instead of trying to “be more loving” to others—be compassionate towards the barriers in your heart. This in and of itself is an act of love and will help you soften Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

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