With all the buzz of attachment theory, it’s easy to think being securely attached is “better” and being insecurely attached is “worse.” But what if we were able to shift this perspective and bring a kinder, gentler approach to attachment theory? In this episode, I sat down with Elizabeth Gillette, LCSW, who is an attachment specialist that supports her clients in developing secure ways of relating and improving their relationships. We cover: where our attachment styles originate how to interrupt the guilt + shame that comes up during an insecure moment “the work” needed to become a secure, loving partner how to show up with more authenticity and integrity …and more! Here are the books Elizabeth Mentioned in the episode: Hold Me Tight - Sue Johnson Diane Poole Heller - The Power of Attachment No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection - Deb Dana — Stay connected with Elizabeth here: Therapy website + course offerings: https://www.heirloomcounseling.com/ Coaching services: https://www.elizabethgillette.com/ Attachment Theory Workbook for Couples: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1638781087?utm_source=Website/Blog Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.gillette/ — Additional resources: Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access) Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coaching Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

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