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In a Neurodiverse Relationship, what happens after you fall in love—but still have to figure out how to live, love, and parent?
In Part 2 of this Season 5 episode with Jodi, Adam and Becca James go even deeper into the realities of a neurodiverse marriage. Becca is autistic and ADHD (AuDHD). Adam is neurotypical. Together, they’ve reached millions on TikTok with raw, relatable content about neurodivergent relationships.
Together, they open up about the day-to-day realities of a neurodiverse relationship—from miscommunication and parenting stress to intimacy challenges, sensory overload, and the emotional friction that comes with constantly decoding each other’s world. With their signature mix of honesty and humor, they explore what it really means to stay connected when love languages clash and nothing feels simple.
💬 You’ll hear about:
Why physical intimacy can feel impossible—and how they rebuilt it from scratch
What happens when emotional cues are misread (and how they recover)
The invisible mental load of affection, communication, and “showing up”
The challenges of parenting as a neurodivergent mom
How some people misunderstand their viral videos—and why they keep posting anyway
Why understanding each other isn’t a goal—it’s a practice
What keeps them committed, even on the hardest days
Whether you're married to someone with autism, parenting through sensory stress, or just trying to better understand your neurodivergent partner, this episode is a heartfelt continuation of a conversation that’s making thousands feel seen.
📍 Episode Timestamps:
00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
00:57 – Meet Adam & Becca: Viral TikTok Couple
01:36 – Misunderstandings, Meltdowns & Missed Signals
03:12 – Using Humor to Survive Neurodivergent Life
10:29 – Family Expectations vs. Neurodivergent Needs
14:42 – When Physical Affection Feels Overwhelming
17:22 – Autism, Intimacy & Rebuilding a Sexual Connection
20:20 – The Gap Between Neurotypical & Neurodivergent Brains
21:46 – Rethinking How Relationships “Should” Work
23:44 – Why Intentional Understanding Keeps Us Together
26:05 – Miscommunication in Marriage: It's Not What You Think
33:29 – Parenting With Limited Bandwidth
37:14 – The Poisoner’s Almanac: Becca’s Special Interest
38:55 – Final Thoughts + Resources for Neurodiverse Couples
✨ About Adam & Becca:
Adam and Becca James are a neurodiverse couple living in Georgia who’ve built a community of over 205K followers on TikTok (@studiesshow) by sharing the everyday realities of their relationship—equal parts insightful, awkward, and hilarious.
Their content went viral after one clip, now with over 32 million views, showing the wildly different ways they wind down at night. Since then, they’ve continued to open up about the challenges and gifts of navigating life, love, and parenthood with ADHD and autism in the mix.
Adam is a home health physical therapist, musician, and lifelong Braves fan. Becca, a nurse with experience in both hospital and home healthcare, brings her dry wit and deeply self-aware reflections to their videos, offering a perspective that resonates with both neurodivergent and neurotypical viewers alike.
Together, they use their TikTok platform to normalize neurodivergence, dismantle stigma, and remind their audience that even opposites can thrive—with the right mix of humor, honesty, and headphones.
Adam and Becca also co-host The Poisoner’s Almanac, a podcast exploring poisons (one of Becca's special interests) through history, culture, and modern science.
Mentioned in this episode:
🎧 Adam & Becca’s podcast: The Poisoner’s Almanac – a true crime-meets-science deep dive into historical and modern poisons, created around Becca’s special interest.
👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses:
https://jodicarlton.com
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