Aaron Doughty

The other component of this too is that there may also be an identity that they took on younger that was an identity of I am worthy if I give. My sense of self-worth subconsciously is tied to my ability to be good And to be good as a kid may mean that you abandon yourself to ease the tension in the family or that you abandon yourself to make mom or dad happy.

And then there's like this rule that's set up that is that in relationships, for me to be worthy, I must give or overgive or I must fix.

And then there's like this rule that's set up that is that in relationships, for me to be worthy, I must give or overgive or I must fix.

And then there's like this rule that's set up that is that in relationships, for me to be worthy, I must give or overgive or I must fix.

and that starts a pattern where then what happens is people that come into your life you in a way tolerate a certain energy more than other people because that's normalized so whereas somebody that may have been in a relationship with someone that's an overtaker or that's kind of entitled

and that starts a pattern where then what happens is people that come into your life you in a way tolerate a certain energy more than other people because that's normalized so whereas somebody that may have been in a relationship with someone that's an overtaker or that's kind of entitled

and that starts a pattern where then what happens is people that come into your life you in a way tolerate a certain energy more than other people because that's normalized so whereas somebody that may have been in a relationship with someone that's an overtaker or that's kind of entitled

they may have been in that relationship and then chosen to leave the relationship or to set a boundary in that relationship because it wasn't something that was equal to how they see themselves being treated.

they may have been in that relationship and then chosen to leave the relationship or to set a boundary in that relationship because it wasn't something that was equal to how they see themselves being treated.

they may have been in that relationship and then chosen to leave the relationship or to set a boundary in that relationship because it wasn't something that was equal to how they see themselves being treated.

Whereas somebody that has that wound active, what they may do is they may put it to the side or say, I'm the only one that can fix this person or believe it's literally my responsibility to fix or I'm only worthy if I overgive. So they tend to subconsciously stay stuck in

Whereas somebody that has that wound active, what they may do is they may put it to the side or say, I'm the only one that can fix this person or believe it's literally my responsibility to fix or I'm only worthy if I overgive. So they tend to subconsciously stay stuck in

Whereas somebody that has that wound active, what they may do is they may put it to the side or say, I'm the only one that can fix this person or believe it's literally my responsibility to fix or I'm only worthy if I overgive. So they tend to subconsciously stay stuck in

those kind of relationships simply because that energy has been familiarized yeah like maybe they think that that's what love is because that was yes normal in their family upbringing yep which is interesting because then what could happen is they could actually have options in their life of people where there's more reciprocal relationships they either don't see it or they

those kind of relationships simply because that energy has been familiarized yeah like maybe they think that that's what love is because that was yes normal in their family upbringing yep which is interesting because then what could happen is they could actually have options in their life of people where there's more reciprocal relationships they either don't see it or they

those kind of relationships simply because that energy has been familiarized yeah like maybe they think that that's what love is because that was yes normal in their family upbringing yep which is interesting because then what could happen is they could actually have options in their life of people where there's more reciprocal relationships they either don't see it or they

they're not even attracted to it. They're like, they think that that's, um, there's like something up with it or boring. It's boring. Exactly. They're like, I'm used to the high highs and the low lows. And you also, it's kind of like subconsciously, they're like, I'm going to play a game. This is the subconscious game. We're going to play. The game is going to play. I'm going to fix you.

they're not even attracted to it. They're like, they think that that's, um, there's like something up with it or boring. It's boring. Exactly. They're like, I'm used to the high highs and the low lows. And you also, it's kind of like subconsciously, they're like, I'm going to play a game. This is the subconscious game. We're going to play. The game is going to play. I'm going to fix you.

they're not even attracted to it. They're like, they think that that's, um, there's like something up with it or boring. It's boring. Exactly. They're like, I'm used to the high highs and the low lows. And you also, it's kind of like subconsciously, they're like, I'm going to play a game. This is the subconscious game. We're going to play. The game is going to play. I'm going to fix you.

And then I'm going to feel responsible for your stuff. And this is all subconscious, of course. But it's like, who else wants to play this game with me? And then if somebody else comes along and they have a regulated nervous system, you look at that and you go, eh. Not my person. Yeah, not my person. I don't feel it. There's no chemistry.