Aaron Doughty
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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And what I ultimately had to do is I had to let go of being right because I identified so much with being right about reality. Mm-hmm. See, things aren't fair. Talking to friends or coworkers. We were trauma bonded at coworking because I had like nine people in my department were like, yeah, things aren't fair. Oh my gosh, she got away. She said this.
We were like probably subconsciously addicted to that story. Yeah. And that fueled a certain part of me that like I think was like subconscious, but it was like I got to stay being right that things aren't fair and that this is the kind of dynamic. And I think I got something out of that and it was a payoff. Mm-hmm. And that was something I was becoming aware of.
And ultimately, what shifted for me is I started meditating. And what I ultimately did is I eventually, after a few weeks of meditation, I forgave my ex-stepmom. And I haven't had to talk to her really at all since I was like 17 years old. One thing that I realized is I around that time came aware of Ho'oponopono, which has been around for a long time.
But basically it was becoming aware that people are always doing the best they can with the level of consciousness they're at. Now,
At first, when I heard that as this probably 22-year-old, I was like, but this doesn't make it right that she did all these things to my brother and I. We didn't have freedom, and we had to fight to go to school, and we had to sneak food to get enough to eat, like all of these things. But then what I realized is she was treated a certain way by her family and her parents for her to be that way.
Now, it didn't make it right, but it did help me understand. And what happened is in that moment, I also recognized that I had a spiritual awakening in 2012-ish that completely shifted my life. I was more present. Cold turkey, stopped drinking, smoking cannabis. At that time, I was also taking Adderall that was prescribed for focus.
And I think part of the reason I had that ADHD is because from 7 to 17, I wasn't allowed to have friends at all. My brother and I didn't really have much of a personality because we weren't allowed to. So after that, there was anxiety that came with the freedom, but also I'm allowed to have friends. I'm allowed to be social. So I was very extroverted.
And people would say, why do you have so much energy? Because I've always had a lot of energy. And I'd feel like, I don't know, I just have a lot of energy. And then I'd go to a doctor and they're like, oh, you have ADHD. So I took Adderall. which the side effects were really harsh for me. It was hard to sleep, hard to eat. So then I would smoke cannabis to make that work.
So I had this almost, now that I think about it, it was like a codependent cycle that I had with these things that was getting me by. But then I learned meditation and started to observe my thoughts, observe even the identity of having ADHD, and I started to let these go. and forgiving my ex-stepmom within, you know, I had that spiritual awakening that shifted everything.
So in the moment of the gratitude for everything I'd been through, I realized that I had a spiritual awakening. So in a way, I was grateful for what I went through, even though it was like, didn't make much sense and it didn't make it right that all this stuff happened. I genuinely was grateful because I don't know if I would have had a spiritual awakening if it weren't for all that pain.
So what ended up happening is within two weeks of recognizing this and forgiving my ex-stepmom, that manager that we literally tried to get fired for like literally two years, but she was so protected by upper management, she'd get away with so much crazy stuff and what she would say to people. What ended up happening, though, is within two weeks, she got fired. And it shifted when I shifted.
So that was a huge shift for me is understanding I had to take responsibility of that story. And I had to forgive her and take responsibility for my interpretation of her, which was a huge insight.
Now, what you're referring to is the process that I shared at a friend's live event, which is this process of ho'oponopono, which I found out about through a book that I read that was called Zero Limits, I believe. one of the powerful concepts in it came from the story of this man whose name was Dr. Hugh Len.
And he's known for modernizing this process of Ho'oponopono, which is a process that's been around in Hawaii for a very long period of time and has traditionally been used for families to get along because there's such a community-focused group of people. And what they would use is this process to heal grievances between different family members, but also different families in general.
And what he did is he would use this process called Ho'oponopono, and it's four simple statements. It's, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, and I love you. And these are four simple statements that anybody can say.
And what happens is when you're saying these statements, there's an energy behind it that goes into the dynamic for the healing so that you can really let go of the energy that is connected to whatever patterns you want to release. Now, Dr. Hugh Len, what he did is he would use this process to, in a way, heal and like experiment with it in his practice of what he would do.
And what he did was is he went to a hospital that was a mental health hospital in Hawaii. And what he did is he would use Ho'oponopono. And what he would do is he was there for about two years. And just to get and kind of paint the picture of this place in Hawaii, it was like a mental insane, like asylum type place. And what would happen is people that worked there were afraid for their life.
There were some patients that had to be sedated. There was an energy of like walking on eggshells that was in there for the people that worked there. And it was kind of chaotic environment. Well, what he did is he went into this place. For two years, he was there. And within two years, many of the lesser cases, some of them were able to actually go home.
The complete vibe shifted over the course of the two years. People weren't afraid to go there to work anymore. People weren't afraid walking around the halls. Less people needed to be sedated. The whole entire vibe shifted because he was using this process of ho'oponopono. Mm-hmm. Now, the interesting thing about it is he did not actually psychoanalyze people.
He didn't bring people into his office and look at their childhood trauma and work with them and do like role playing or anything like that. In fact, what he would do is he would just go over on a sheet of paper their files and And then he would do this process of, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.
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