Abbie Chatfield

My threshold for being overstimulated, being people coming up and asking for photos and talking to me, it's just too much.

And I don't mean this.

I think a lot of people who get photos get asked for photos more than me or get asked –

for, I don't know, they get people saying hello to them in public or whatever.

I think there are people that get it much more than me that handle it better than me.

But the reality is I'm neurodivergent.

I get overstimulated.

I also like at the best of times, even before I had this, this job, I wouldn't go out past midnight.

Like I'm, I'm really a

Like shy, I get really exhausted really easily by people coming up and talking to me.

And the thing is, I'm just going to be fully honest because I feel like whenever I talk about this, people, I'm really scared that people are going to take it in a way that's like, well, you're ungrateful.

You should love your fan.

And I just need to be honest about it for a moment because it's getting to a point.

Well, it's been at a point for years where it's,

impacts my mental health so badly that if a big incident happens, I'm fucked for days.

And something happened on Friday that I was just so, I feel this disgusting invasion of privacy and invasion of my space.

And I feel this really gross, um, uh,

inequality in the level of parasocial relationship when people are fans of mine or listeners of the podcast and they come up to me and they don't tell me they know who I am.

I'm so fine with it and I can handle it.

when people come up to me and they go oh my god love you queen can I get a photo I go yep cool love you and that's 95 percent of you so love all of you don't feel like you can't do that but what I would love is for the other five percent if you're listening to this is first of all don't