Abbie Chatfield

Also, no one can create a baby on their own.

Even if you bear specific risks to carry a child, you are never the only adult involved.

So you are not the sole decision maker.

Again, I don't know any women, I've never heard of any women who say, I'm the sole decision maker.

In fact, a lot of feminist conversations are centered around women saying, I don't want to make so many decisions.

This is all on me.

Women are the default parent.

That's the issue.

Dr. Earn or whatever, that woman with amazing hair.

And these men think women want to have control over every decision.

I also think that a lot of the examples they're probably thinking of are things like safety, what the baby eats, who takes care of the baby, where they go to school, things that actually are...

important for the child's development and safety.

And I feel like maybe they're controlling the decision-making because they can't trust you, again, because you're sitting on men's rights, right?

So maybe you aren't the most trustworthy person to take care of a child.

Because the mental load is a very real thing.

I don't know any woman, let me know, mothers and wives, anyone that lives with a man even, you let me know if you want control over every, I feel like every woman's ideal date is I don't want to make any decisions.

I don't want to choose where we go.

I don't want to choose where we eat.

I don't want to choose.

I want you to figure it out.