Abby Wambach

That's something that has happened in your life. And one of the vows that we have made, especially since we've gotten married because we did actually make vows, is like we don't want to use each other's weaknesses against each other. Like that's something that is a tender spot and it's a tender spot to me too. So like when these things kind of come up, we can't use it against each other.

That's something that has happened in your life. And one of the vows that we have made, especially since we've gotten married because we did actually make vows, is like we don't want to use each other's weaknesses against each other. Like that's something that is a tender spot and it's a tender spot to me too. So like when these things kind of come up, we can't use it against each other.

That's something that has happened in your life. And one of the vows that we have made, especially since we've gotten married because we did actually make vows, is like we don't want to use each other's weaknesses against each other. Like that's something that is a tender spot and it's a tender spot to me too. So like when these things kind of come up, we can't use it against each other.

And I know I've not been like this in my life. This is probably sobriety really helping me be like, what the fuck? Like when you're not sober, You're keeping secrets like they might not be cheating secrets, but you're keeping secrets like that's how you stay alcoholic. Like it's the secrets that take you down. So in my sobriety, I was just like, yeah, like, what do you want?

And I know I've not been like this in my life. This is probably sobriety really helping me be like, what the fuck? Like when you're not sober, You're keeping secrets like they might not be cheating secrets, but you're keeping secrets like that's how you stay alcoholic. Like it's the secrets that take you down. So in my sobriety, I was just like, yeah, like, what do you want?

And I know I've not been like this in my life. This is probably sobriety really helping me be like, what the fuck? Like when you're not sober, You're keeping secrets like they might not be cheating secrets, but you're keeping secrets like that's how you stay alcoholic. Like it's the secrets that take you down. So in my sobriety, I was just like, yeah, like, what do you want?

You want my email passwords?

You want my email passwords?

You want my email passwords?

Yeah. I mean, I don't know. Have you been looking at my phone?

Yeah. I mean, I don't know. Have you been looking at my phone?

Yeah. I mean, I don't know. Have you been looking at my phone?

But now we have each other's passwords to everything. Like, I can open her computer with my fingerprint. Like, the whole thing.

But now we have each other's passwords to everything. Like, I can open her computer with my fingerprint. Like, the whole thing.

But now we have each other's passwords to everything. Like, I can open her computer with my fingerprint. Like, the whole thing.

Well, you have to think about it because there's the defensiveness that shows up, right? And what is underneath the defensiveness? It's like, okay, they don't trust me. Then that's like the next level. And then you have to go deeper than that. It's like, why don't they trust me? And then it has literally probably nothing to do with you. That's right.

Well, you have to think about it because there's the defensiveness that shows up, right? And what is underneath the defensiveness? It's like, okay, they don't trust me. Then that's like the next level. And then you have to go deeper than that. It's like, why don't they trust me? And then it has literally probably nothing to do with you. That's right.

Well, you have to think about it because there's the defensiveness that shows up, right? And what is underneath the defensiveness? It's like, okay, they don't trust me. Then that's like the next level. And then you have to go deeper than that. It's like, why don't they trust me? And then it has literally probably nothing to do with you. That's right.

So it's like if you can do that equation and process that really quickly, look, I have been the one that's like, what, you don't trust me and I'm defensive and I'm like standing in the trust part of it. It's like actually go one step deeper and honesty, like being honest with yourself. Because if you have untrustworthy behavior –

So it's like if you can do that equation and process that really quickly, look, I have been the one that's like, what, you don't trust me and I'm defensive and I'm like standing in the trust part of it. It's like actually go one step deeper and honesty, like being honest with yourself. Because if you have untrustworthy behavior –