Abby

Good.

I'm Abby and I'm 36 years old and I'm curious, how do I date like it's 2025?

Well, I have been recently single again, and I'm used to dating as being more of a serial monogamist.

So I usually date one person at a time.

I usually fall pretty fast and I'm usually just right off to the races.

But I'm trying to slow down a little bit, not chase the spark as much and date multiple people at once.

And that's getting kind of messy.

I've actually started to like a couple different men at once.

And it feels a little bit icky to me to be dating two people at once.

Yeah, I guess that's true.

I mean, I have been trying to be intentionally a little bit slower, so definitely trying to slow down the pace with each of them, keep physical intimacy off the table for longer, pay more attention to how I'm feeling and evaluate that against my values and what I'm actually looking for now.

So I've been trying to do that at the same time.

It just so happens that I somehow have enjoyed the company of two people at once, which I really wasn't expecting.

It's very fun.

I'm enjoying it a lot and they're extremely different people.

So I think that's why it's so challenging.

We connect for very different reasons.

Well, one of them, I think he's a little bit older than me.

He's divorced, he's got kids.

He's more of that stable presence.