Abby

Oh, that's a good question about their past relationships.

I think I delved into it more with the slightly older divorced guy because I wanted to understand the divorce and the reasons, what he'd learned from that relationship, what he's looking for differently this time, what he thinks he needs out of a partner in the future and what he wants since he already has done marriage and kids.

The other guy had been a little bit more

loose with because he's seen he presents as more of like a free spirit energy so to me i haven't probed as deeply to him on you know what he's looking for or like what he's learned from his past relationships as much okay what's his relationship with his ex-wife uh civil now they share kids so they have to how many kids two have you learned anything from that

Yes, I've learned a lot.

I think he seems to have done a lot of post-divorce soul searching to understand why the relationship devolved and why he's learned a lot from his kids.

He's actually sat around being more emotionally present for them because he wasn't necessarily that way for his wife.

And so, yeah, I think he's, for me, he has said all of the right things and done all of the right things.

And I'm just maybe doing what you said around like putting up my own guard around, okay, well, he's already had the marriage.

He has kids.

He's probably less interested in having more kids if that was something I wanted.

He's a lot more buttoned down than I am.

So is that the kind of

We've talked about it a little bit.

He said he's open, but he didn't expect that he would want to have more kids.

Yeah, that resonates because I think part of my concern or hold back with him has been like, how genuine is this versus just are you saying all the right things?

Yeah.

No, no.

I think I need to

delve more into that with him because I think at the beginning I had kind of written him off as like he's this free spirit creative like never been married never been in a super well he's been in a like seven year relationship but never been in a super so he's been in a long term relationship but never done anything