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the more committed thing.

So I kind of wrote it off as, this is gonna be a little bit of a fun for now thing, but he started to show up more seriously.

And I've noticed in the way that he like approaches me, that it is very, it seems to be very intentional.

It seems to be very intent on actually getting to know me and build a potential relationship.

So now I'm starting to question, okay, did I maybe write him off too quickly?

Is this like free spirited, not going to be a partner person.

Oh, God.

I don't know.

I think I'm more drawn to the free-spirited guy, and I'm maybe stopping myself because I assume, I'm worried that I may be doing the same thing again and pursuing the person who's

less stable.

Yeah.

I think when I started dating again in my early 30s, I hadn't dated since I was 20.

And so I was not being intentional about it.

I was still probably dating, like you said, dating as if I was in my 20s and being like, oh, where's the spark?

Where's the chemistry?

And I followed that a couple of times.

So I've had two relationships since my

decade-long one ended and um yeah both of those i just was like oh the chemistry is immediately there i immediately am very very interested in them and i think i probably overlooked some flags early on by just like jumping straight into it what would like if you had to nitpick like what would your exes say about you oh

Probably a few things.

I think they would...