Adam Grant

You're looking for a cosmology, a larger order to things.

And you're also trying to make sense of all the messiness and complexity of human beings.

Guess what?

There are great religious communities.

Maybe that's not your cup of tea.

I also happen to belong to a community of really great psychologists.

who can teach you a little bit about the frameworks that we use to understand the differences between people and what we respond to when we experience other people as aligned or not aligned with us.

And there's actually a place where you can belong and find meaning and connection.

I never have that conversation with people.

I think I should.

Okay, Brene, confirmation bias Brown.

I see you, I raise you.

In a Shakespearean sense, I am hoisting you with your own petard.

Better graphics.

We also need better language.

Calling people neurotic and disagreeable is not going to bring them on board.

But not enough.

Yeah, and I don't want you to wear a necklace because then that identity has become a literal possession, not just a figurative one.

I want you to try it on.

Oh, you're allowed to have a sports team identity, a university identity.