Adam Lane Smith

That is the business of marriage, and that's why marriage exists.

The problem with the red pill movement, people like Rollo Tomasi and things like that, the reason they don't like me is because I say they look at women and they take all the worst traits of, let's say, borderline personality disorder, and they say every woman on the planet has borderline personality disorder.

They are all sociopaths, they're monsters, they are evil, and they take from you and give you nothing in return.

Now what they're disregarding is what a woman brings to the table.

But biologically and biochemically, a woman brings an immense amount of joy, pleasure, safety, medical health, all kinds of things to men.

We can go into that if you ever want to.

But women bring so much, but only in a safe, securely attached relationship.

That's only where she can bring it.

No, most men are not providing the four levels of safety to a woman, so women are not able to reciprocate and provide the four levels of peace back to him.

The masculine must establish the safety first so that she's free to do that.

Otherwise, her nervous system will stop her from doing it.

Absolutely.

Do you have a model yet for what you need from her?

Do you even know how to tell her what you need?

Do you even know what your needs are actually as a man?

Well, let's even dive deeper.

Quite disorganized attachment style, you are designed to not know what your needs are because your brain will say, I'm not able to ask other people for anything.

And so even wanting it is bad.

When you were probably one or two years old, you asked for stuff.

Your parents put that down pretty hard and taught you never to ask again.