Adam Lane Smith

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles · Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | Adam Lane Smith - EP 782 · 18 Jun 2026 podcast

And it reprograms the brain to head towards secure connection instead.

That's the process.

Is that tracking?

Is that making sense?

You are exactly correct in that they come home.

One of them is exhausted.

Usually the avoidant partner, they've given everything at the office for 16 hours and their partner is anxious and desperate for approval and connection and says, you're home.

We finally get to connect.

And their partner goes, oh, I'm home.

Now I have to connect.

And they walk in and it's this exhaustion that the anxious person misunderstands as you're not happy to see me.

And the other partner is saying, I just need and not saying it out loud inside their head.

They're saying, I just need time to myself.

Why won't you listen?

And they walk in and give one word answers to push the other person away because they don't know how to articulate what's necessary.

And the other person feels so rejected and abandoned.

They follow them around like a puppy dog trying to get attention, and they just make it worse without meaning to.

One set of skills, ownership would be, and skills would be able to sit down with your partner, not at that moment, but on a weekend and say, I've noticed a pattern between us, right?

I'm going to regulate enough to have a conversation with you.

Then I'm going to talk with you and say, I've noticed a pattern.

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