Adam Lane Smith

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1,798 appearances 3 recordings 3 series first heard Jan 2026 last heard 22 Jun

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles · Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | Adam Lane Smith - EP 782 · 18 Jun 2026 podcast

Talking to people about dreams and hopes is unsafe.

All of these things that would build loving, intimate relationships get tagged as unsafe, so our system stops us.

And if we do try, usually we accidentally attract partners who have the same beliefs because we're signaling to them in a way that says, I don't talk about those things, so if you don't want to talk about those either, come with me, let's have feelings.

And we build relationships based on how we feel about each other at the moment instead of what we're building together long term.

And that creates a perpetual cycle of, I can't break out of this.

And then we try, we learn skills.

Maybe we learn skills or we go to therapy, whatever it is.

We develop our prefrontal cortex, the thinking part of our brain.

And we learn all these skills.

We listen to great podcasts.

We read great books.

And our prefrontal cortex says, okay, I know what to do.

Then we walk into a situation with our child or our partner or our business partner, and we get scared and our nervous system takes over and says, I'm in danger.

Prefrontal cortex goes offline in a 10th of a second.

And the limbic system activates instead the amygdala and everything through there.

And it says, I am in danger.

I will fight.

I will flee.

I will fawn people, please.

Or I will freeze.

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