Adam Lane Smith
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1,798 appearances
3 recordings
3 series
first heard Jan 2026
last heard 22 Jun
Adam Lane Smith’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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If they're lucky, they wait long enough.
But usually they picked a partner who was anxiously attached, who emotionally craves their connection validation.
And their partner usually will not advocate for their own needs until they have children.
And then their partner advocates fiercely for the needs of the children, the surprises that avoidant partner.
And all of a sudden they have a war on their hands at home, which they feel like they're losing.
So then they hyper fixate into work to compensate.
everything is money work and they work 16 hours a day six days a week when they come home feel like a failure at home their partner feels more distant than ever the kids grow up in this and say wow this is normal this is how family works this is terrible and then they split apart then they tell the kids something like sometimes love just doesn't work out as if there's no variables that we can track and the message we send to our children is well there's just no hope it's a complete random crapshoot it's 50 50 whether you're going to get divorced and have your guts ripped out by the person you think you love so
I wouldn't even bother getting married kids because it's so catastrophic.
And that's why Gen Z right now, they say 49% of Gen Z when they interview them says it is not important at all to have children or build a family.
That is the least important thing.
I am so focused on everything else in my life.
They don't even want to have kids.
The divorce rates actually are going down, but only because nobody's wanting to even get married anymore.
That's what we're finding.
So this has been going on for about 110 years.
It's got worse and worse over the last 110 years from what I can map out.
Our nervous system gets programmed in childhood for what's going to be safe and not safe.
And if we try to deviate from what we think is safe and do things that feel not safe, our nervous system is supposed to stop us.
Unfortunately, our nervous system learns that talking to people about feelings is unsafe and being open and transparent is unsafe.
Being honest is unsafe.
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