Adam Schafer

And so it starts there.

It starts with one, becoming aware and then be open to looking at those traits.

Listen, you don't have to go marry the person right away.

So just go on some dates and go have some conversations and see what happens and see if that sparks something else in you or at least makes you go, you know what, I'm going to go on another date.

Let's see what happens on the next date.

That's because, Jen, it's more because right now it's a drug.

When you have an insecurity when you're broken and you're attracting the wrong type of person from you, it's like getting a hit of a drug.

And so you have to want to change that.

Just like somebody who is addicted to a drug who says, I know this habit is bad for me.

I need to quit.

It's going to be hard.

And you're going to want to fall back in those behaviors because you're addicted to those behaviors.

You have to become aware that that's what that person is for you.

For me, it was that I had insecurities around being smart and successful and powerful.

And so getting a woman that I could teach and lead and show her all the things that fulfilled that, like a drug.

It gave me, because the initial connection was awesome.

It was like, yeah.

You know, I felt so good.

Like a man.

Yes.