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Adrian Kaler

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Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

The more honest the leader is, the more magnetic they will be, which is different than the more impressive the leader is, the more magnetic they will be. That's previous generations. This the future generations are just dying for an honest conversation because the world is weirder and weirder and tougher and tougher for them. And that's a whole day long seminar about why I say that's true.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

The more honest the leader is, the more magnetic they will be, which is different than the more impressive the leader is, the more magnetic they will be. That's previous generations. This the future generations are just dying for an honest conversation because the world is weirder and weirder and tougher and tougher for them. And that's a whole day long seminar about why I say that's true.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

But so the more honest you can be, will be because it's always never an ability. It's always a willingness because can you be sure? Are you willing to be is the only question that matters. And that is, am I willing to take the gamble that if I'm honest, they won't run? If I'm honest, will they get closer? Like if we have the conflict, will there be more trust or less? That's up for grabs.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

But so the more honest you can be, will be because it's always never an ability. It's always a willingness because can you be sure? Are you willing to be is the only question that matters. And that is, am I willing to take the gamble that if I'm honest, they won't run? If I'm honest, will they get closer? Like if we have the conflict, will there be more trust or less? That's up for grabs.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

But it is 100% connected to who you are and how you are in the conflict. So it's hard for me to put this in a thimble here, but we all wrestle with this. And the more that you're willing even to describe the wrestling, the more people are going to open up with you. And if you want to build a thriving culture, this is all connected to results. There's money and then there are hills.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

But it is 100% connected to who you are and how you are in the conflict. So it's hard for me to put this in a thimble here, but we all wrestle with this. And the more that you're willing even to describe the wrestling, the more people are going to open up with you. And if you want to build a thriving culture, this is all connected to results. There's money and then there are hills.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

Um, because the more honest someone can be with what the real experience is, both of themselves and what they make about others and what they make up about clients in the market. If you can get to that core conversation, not everybody's paid to be a coach or a psychologist. Don't go be that. But you need to have language for how to engage with people at their root level.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

Um, because the more honest someone can be with what the real experience is, both of themselves and what they make about others and what they make up about clients in the market. If you can get to that core conversation, not everybody's paid to be a coach or a psychologist. Don't go be that. But you need to have language for how to engage with people at their root level.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

That's how you shift people. You get beyond the symptoms and into the real causal issues. And it's easier than you think. It's just more dangerous. And you know it's dangerous. That's why you've not been doing it. But most of us aren't trained in how to do it. And that's why people love to have us around or people like us around, because we give them the shortcuts to it. So it's always necessary.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

That's how you shift people. You get beyond the symptoms and into the real causal issues. And it's easier than you think. It's just more dangerous. And you know it's dangerous. That's why you've not been doing it. But most of us aren't trained in how to do it. And that's why people love to have us around or people like us around, because we give them the shortcuts to it. So it's always necessary.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

And this is why leaders suffer in silence, that whole thing, or it's lonely at the top. That's because of this. Because we get to a place where we feel like we've been selling our persona for so long, we've lost who we are as a person. So anyway, I think it's a brilliant question, and I don't know if I answered it very well, but there's a lot in there.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

And this is why leaders suffer in silence, that whole thing, or it's lonely at the top. That's because of this. Because we get to a place where we feel like we've been selling our persona for so long, we've lost who we are as a person. So anyway, I think it's a brilliant question, and I don't know if I answered it very well, but there's a lot in there.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

The companies take new ground, take new ground dot com. You can follow me, message me on Instagram, adrian.k on Instagram. Those are two easiest ways. And love to talk with anybody. Anybody in your world, love your vibe, man. Love where you're coming from. Love your heart. We could be best friends.

Finding Peak w/ Ryan Hanley
Why Most Leaders Fail: The Danger of Avoiding Honest Conversations

The companies take new ground, take new ground dot com. You can follow me, message me on Instagram, adrian.k on Instagram. Those are two easiest ways. And love to talk with anybody. Anybody in your world, love your vibe, man. Love where you're coming from. Love your heart. We could be best friends.

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