Aja Evans

Now, if you're in a world where you're being strategic, you have to be extra strategic.

So you better start planning for this divorce and be domiciled in a good state to get a divorce.

Because otherwise...

It's not good for you.

It varies state by state.

This is what I always say.

A prenup is just an individualized contract.

But the state already has a contract for you as to what happens in the event of a divorce.

You can just modify that.

And when you modify that, that is called a prenup.

Yes.

I've had a few couples who have come to me when they are trying to navigate prenup conversations and the contract itself or right before the contract.

What's happened for me is that they are coming because their families are pretty much telling them that they need to have prenups.

So it may not even be that they as a couple decided that they wanted to get

a prenup together, but their families were more so dictating that they needed a prenup.

And our work was really about making sure that they were maintaining communication that like while they were going through the proceedings and getting it done, that they felt still united as a couple, that they felt like, hey, this is a positive thing.

Yeah, we have some agency.

We're centering our marriage.

We're centering our love, even though we're going through this process because other people wanted us to go through it.

American culture is very, I mean, think about like WASP culture.