Alain De Botton
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1,037 appearances
5 recordings
5 series
first heard Jan 2024
last heard 1 Jul
Alain De Botton’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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You know, I've ruined my life.
This person, I've married the wrong person.
And therefore, you're panicked.
And when you're trying to get something across, you lose your temper, you humiliate.
And no one ever learns anything from being humiliated by their so-called inverted commas teacher.
Look, I think there's a weird way in which many of the things we think of as unromantic are oddly properly romantic if we re-baptise the word romantic to mean unromantic.
something that will help long-term love.
So, for example, trying to go patiently over issues and conflicts and not merely storming out or accusing the person of being patronizing or whatever, that this is actually a vital glue that holds a couple together.
Don't get me wrong.
Look, feeling has a role.
Chemistry has a role.
Instinct has a role.
But I think that once you're in the relationship, you're going to have to do an awful lot of patient kind of decoding.
Take the, I think you mentioned the bathroom towel.
You know, part of the problem with the romantics is that they never prepared us
for the practical side of life.
In 19th century poetry, say, there's no mention of any lovers ever doing the laundry.
There's just like no one ever does the laundry.
Whereas actually most couples, they have to spend quite a lot of time doing the laundry.
But it's very possible to imagine that your life's gone a bit wrong because you thought you were entering into this kind of dreamlike, hallucinogenic kind of
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