Alex Cooper

has really become a challenge and the younger you go the more this takes place this is the belief system of the moment and why do you think although i feel like this is a very obvious question i just have to ask you because i want your opinion like why do you think women disproportionately bear the shame of staying because there are men who stay after getting cheated on you know yes

Yes.

What conversations do you think need to take place in order to make the relationship work after someone has cheated?

Because I know you meet with couples and...

you do help repair relationships.

Right.

But is that then inadvertently kind of about the other person?

Like what drives someone to cheat?

It's also so hard though, because you're like, yes, it may not be about you, but it impacts you obviously so deeply.

And it's almost, I wonder for people, have you found when you're in these moments and you're talking to these couples, is it more infuriating for the partner that got cheated on to be like, I didn't do, like, this is all about you.

I couldn't, like, it wasn't even because like, I wasn't like having enough sex with you.

Like, there's nothing I can change.

You just were going to do this no matter what.

Do you find when you've done couples therapy that the person who cheated is usually capable of meeting the partner there?

You're like, there's patterns here, Alex.

It must be so hard too because I could see the person that cheated wants to move forward but the other person is like, I need you to know I'm actually, if I'm deciding to move forward, I'm not actually trying to hold you against the fire forever of being like, did you come to this restaurant?

But I would love if you could meet me there in trying to just fill in the gaps for me so I don't have all these question marks.

Even as uncomfortable as the brutal honesty can be from the person who cheated, that is the beginning of repair.

Sometimes.

I think I would want to know if someone had fallen in love.