Alex Cooper

Esther, that is such a brilliant and yet somehow simple concept that I don't know why we're not.

Esther, we're done with first dates.

Being alone.

I'm not kidding you.

As you're talking, I love it because it just made me think of something.

I remember when I was dating...

I had so much success when I would be at a bar or at an event with my friends.

And if I met a guy there and he was with my friends and I, I ended up like we'd had the best night.

And then we'd go on a one-on-one date eventually.

But it weirdly...

let all of my kind of my guard like was down and we were grounded in your life and it was so the stakes were so low because i was like i'm with my girls if you blend in and then i would watch him interact with my friends that's right data points so many data points

Guys, I think that Esther Perel just solved, we can just end it right here.

We are no longer going on first dates that are just solo at a table awkwardly, like bring them when you are going out with your girls for drinks or bring them on the hike that you and your friends are going on and be like, my friends and I are doing this.

Want to meet up with us?

How, bring some of your friends.

Because this context gives you a felt sense and a felt sense is intuitive and it's so much more important and accurate to your real life rather than your checklist of being like, okay, I remember I wanted to see if he does this and you're alone on your date and you're trying to hit your checklist.

Like, are you applying to be my assistant?

It's interesting because...

Let's say, and I know everyone is obviously different and every circumstance is unique, but let's say, Esther, someone is like, okay, I am in the dating world.

I'm taking all of your notes so far, but could you help me in what traits are actually important to care about in a future partner?