Alex Cooper

changes you need to go through some friction because you need to see how you two argue and i'm not saying arguing is healthy but like at some point human beings cannot just go through life and just have no issues that's just not how life goes so it's like the beginning of relationships it is sometimes important to see if you are almost compatible in the way that you handle conflict and i think a lot of people can be like oh we're getting married we haven't had one issue

Do you think it's concerning if people have never had one problem and already like, we're getting married, we've never fought a day in our life?

And when you get to repair, how important is compatibility then in communication styles?

Yeah.

That's something that I've always found interesting in the dance of relationships.

And also there has to be a level of respect, right?

Because I remember my husband and I in the beginning days,

he would want to handle it immediately.

And I would be like, I need a second.

And then we would both be like, wait, like, and then it would, we almost need to find our common ground of like, okay, I can't go into a hole for three days and ignore you.

So I'm going to, we need to find our middle ground of where we both can respect each other that you need some reprieve right now.

You can't just be waiting for three days.

And also I don't, can't have this conversation in 20 minutes.

So where can you meet in the middle?

Again, that just takes accountability, right?

Right, because I'm not arguing or fighting with myself.

Like there's another person that has the keys to the answers of why they acted that way and why I acted that way.

I'm going to say that a million times today.

It's so real because I can already see it.

I'm sure everyone else can that's watching.