Alex Cooper

It's like...

You're you're venting to your friend and it's like I'm waiting for him to text me and I'm it's driving me insane because then I found out he ended up going to the dinner and he never even invited me.

And I just don't like I don't even understand.

I'm just so over it.

I'm done.

And I like actually fucking hate him and I'm over it.

And what you're saying is like, OK, slow down for a second because this is someone you love.

and get underneath like what is it that's actually upsetting you and that probably would fall i would assume into the category the last one right totally where you're just like you're looking for the recognition and you want to be respected and seen and a part of their life you want to feel like you mean something to someone and when you went alone and you didn't tell me or you didn't invite me you didn't include me i'm like you know mashed potatoes

And I think what you had said earlier, even in the dating that really applies to this is what's so hard in conflict resolution between couples is so much, almost a lot of time in no matter what argument it is, also starts in power in terms of like, I don't want to admit I was wrong here or whatever, but it also is power in terms of like, it requires you to actually get vulnerable.

I love that.

I was going to say, because there's such a difference between...

I was going to be like, okay, power sounds negative, right?

Power sounds like you have something over people.

Because I remember growing up, my mom would always say, the person who cares the least in the relationship- Has all the power.

And it pisses people off when you say that.

They're like, that's not true.

And it's like, no, no.

The person who cares the least has all of the power.

They don't give a fuck.

So you're constantly trying to get their attention and get them to care and get them.