Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And I was actually talking to a friend of mine literally yesterday who had gone through the exact same thing again.

There's like this weird population of fucking clowns out there that are ending relationships in this way.

Okay.

What I am going to say to you is.

You cannot control other people.

You can't control so many things in your life.

And what I don't want you to do, which is where I wasted a lot of my time and I feel like I took so long to heal, like literally like over a year.

a year and a half probably, it was me wanting closure, wanting an answer, trying to pull it apart, trying to dissect what went wrong and why and this and that and whatever.

Don't.

Do not do that to yourself.

Because as much as you think that you know someone, sometimes we just don't.

Because you could say, oh, but I knew him so well.

But there's always a side of someone that

That maybe you just don't know.

And for me, it was hard to come to admit that.

So I refused to face it.

I refused to admit it.

And I thought, no, it's just a lapse in judgment and he'll come back.

Instead of acknowledging the situation for what it was, that there was a side of him that I never knew he was going through and your partner.

has been going through this whole breakup in his head without having the courtesy of communicating to you that he wasn't feeling like this relationship was heading in the direction that he felt it needed to be heading in.