Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

That maybe you just don't know.

And for me, it was hard to come to admit that.

So I refused to face it.

I refused to admit it.

And I thought, no, it's just a lapse in judgment and he'll come back.

Instead of acknowledging the situation for what it was, that there was a side of him that I never knew he was going through and your partner.

has been going through this whole breakup in his head without having the courtesy of communicating to you that he wasn't feeling like this relationship was heading in the direction that he felt it needed to be heading in.

Whatever the fuck his needs were, he wasn't communicating the cross saying, for whatever reason, my needs in this relationship are not being met.

Everyone's got needs in a relationship and when they're being met and when they like the person, they stay and it flourishes and it grows.

But there was something going on in him that he thought not only am I not having my needs met, whatever the fuck those needs are,

But I'm also not going to tell her about it.

This wasn't a decision that happened overnight.

He's thought about this for a while.

I'm not saying years.

I'm saying like months.

Okay.

You do not end a serious relationship.

out of thin air because when you come up to, when you come to that conclusion, it's because you've gone back and forth and back and forth and thought, and maybe I'll try and make it work.

Maybe this, maybe that.

And that whole fucking time, he never raised it with you.