Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

okay so you have to remind yourself that as as much as you think well like but how how and why and how and why unfortunately he was going through this whole process of that relationship breakdown alone in his head he never gave you the chance to remedy it because he didn't want you to he didn't want you to try and remedy it he wanted to get to the point where he was ready enough to leave without the chance of like but maybe we'll remedy it maybe

You know, I'm going to make her feel bad or this or that or maybe this or maybe that or maybe I'll feel bad and then I go back or whatever.

So it's so fucked to hear, but we have to hear it.

They just didn't have their needs.

You weren't meeting his needs.

And sometimes you can never because you're just not aligned as individuals.

And it feels like, oh, but it was, but it was perfect.

It was whatever.

We don't know what was going on in their head.

Okay.

And we can call them an asshole.

They could have been a good person.

Who cares?

Who cares what character they had at the end of the day?

They didn't want to be with you.

And that is the most painful part about it.

But once you can acknowledge they didn't want to be with me, they did not want a future with me, then you can start to wrap your head around what makes a good partner.

Because you can sit here and be devastated and sad and rightly so, especially as you're processing these feelings and emotions.

It's like, of course you're going to be and they're real feelings and you need to honor them and feel them.

But then at what point are you going to start telling yourself, you know what, someone's only the actual love of my life if they love me back.