Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

Otherwise, they're not the love of my life.

I can love them deeply.

I can have had like a crazy good few years with them.

But if they don't love me back, if they don't respect me in a way where they want to work through it,

I don't even know if respect is the right word, but if they don't even want the possibility of working through it, that is all the answer you're ever going to need.

You don't need any more information.

Sometimes people are in your life for a short period of time, for a couple of years or a couple of months, and that's it.

And hopefully you can learn from it and take something from it.

But what I don't want you to do is sit there wallowing, thinking you're never going to recover.

One of the things that I hated the most when I went through that crazy heartbreak is people saying to me, you'll get over it, you'll get better.

And I used to think, you don't understand the pain I'm in.

You obviously don't.

Because if you think I'll get over it, I'm never going to get over it.

And I would just be like, I just want him to come back.

That's all I want.

Like that was the state that I was in.

But instead, what I should have been doing is I should have been telling myself the really hard shit I didn't want to hear.

I should have been burning that bridge between me and him and thinking it will never come back.

And I should have started being kinder to myself and my time and thinking, you know what, I need to start grieving and healing now.

I need to know that it's over and I don't need closure from him anymore.