Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

You show people how you would like to be treated.

And then it's up to that person if they want to treat you that way or not.

But then it's up to you if you want to keep interacting with that person or not.

I would never say, this is how you have to treat me.

You've got to treat me.

You're fucking banging on it.

No, I treat my way with a standard.

There's a standard.

If someone crosses that line, I say, I don't put up with that.

But often the line isn't crossed.

Well, now especially.

The older I get, the less likely that line is crossed.

When I was a lot younger, you know, in the dating scene and friendships, the line was getting crossed all the time.

I didn't even know where the line was.

But as I got older, as I realised this is what I want, this is what I don't want, and I started treating myself with that bare minimum.

And by that I mean I would walk away when something wasn't working for me.

I wouldn't put up with bullshit just because I was like, oh, but you're really cool.

I just wouldn't.

And I started...

removing myself from situations that weren't working for me, people start to notice that.