Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

I gave you the advice, but you don't want to take it.

I said you should, but you didn't want to.

And they get all offended.

They manage somehow to insert themselves in something that has nothing to do about them and somehow become the victim.

It's extremely exhausting.

And if you know, you fucking know, okay?

Number eight.

They feel that you are personally attacking them when you choose to hang out with another relative and they are not there.

Even if it's like your siblings or the other parent or someone else, if you just want to hang out with, it's got nothing to do with them.

You just want to hang out with another relative and you just happen to have not invited them.

They think that you're actually out to get them.

They feel like you have attacked them.

Number nine, always bringing up an embarrassing or an unpleasant story of your past or highlighting something that you have done wrong, even if it was years and years and years ago.

And this is in an attempt to humble you, but also appear that they know so much about you personally.

All in one, right?

So it's classic form of emotional control.

They're trying to disarm you.

They're trying to disarm you and they're trying to show everyone how much they know about you and how well they know you and how well they know your past.

And it makes you feel completely...

you know, obviously emotionally disarmed but embarrassed as well because they might have brought something up that it was something that you did that you're not proud of or something that you did that was embarrassing or something you did as a child that has nothing to do with who you are today and it doesn't reflect any of the conversation that you were having in that group.