Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And that's where it gets really difficult because a lot of people, they know what they'd like, but they're not willing to walk away when those standards aren't met.

You have to learn that.

to set the standard and walk away when those standards are not met.

So this is the command versus demand.

I will always remove myself from a situation if I can't meet in the middle with someone and determine what that minimum standard is for respect mutually.

And if we can't get to that point, I will just remove myself from the situation.

I will not be fucking labeling it and telling it how it is and fucking you have to this and that.

No.

Okay.

And because of that, I feel a lot calmer in myself.

I feel very confident within myself because I know that I will always provide the bare minimum standard of that treatment.

Okay.

So command versus demand.

Then the last one is trust.

Reflect back.

This is a really good way to remind yourself of your worth.

Now there's three categories of things that you have earned that you can focus on that makes you start to like, that reminds you of your worth.

Okay.

And I always talk about earning things because earning things is a really good reflection of who you are as an individual.

I don't, you know, you can't be like, oh my God, I'm really worthy because I'm hot.