Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

You haven't earned your hotness and a lot of people who are actually like textbook hot have a lot of anxiety and a lot of self-doubt because they're using that facet to determine their worth and they're like, oh, but this is going to fade and is this enough and then it's just my looks.

So it's got to be something you've earned.

Because things that you've earned can't be bought, borrowed, stolen, imitated, taken away.

If you've earned something, that's you.

Okay?

So when I talk about earning things that you can focus on to make you be like, fuck, I did that.

I did that.

So this is what I've achieved in my life.

And it makes you feel better about yourself.

One category is relationship achievement, so the quality of your relationships.

And that's something that, you know, I've really earned this amazing bond with my sister or I've really earned this incredible group of friends or I've really earned this whatever.

But look at your relationships and the really healthy, good relationships, it's at least 50% due to you and you've worked on that because if you weren't the quality of person that you are today,

That relationship would be different.

So give yourself credit for the good relationships in your life.

And then that will also help you realize, oh, where am I lacking in other relationships?

Can I make them just as good?

Another one is physical slash intellectual things that you've earned.

You know, what have you worked really hard on physically or mentally to achieve?

And this is like external achievements that you've worked hard for to get.

And then the last one is emotional things as far as growth.