Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

So if you're already doing that, that's going to save you a lot of pain and heartache, like big time.

So what I recommend you would do in this situation is remind yourself as often as possible about your morals and your values, okay?

Sometimes we get too swept up in thinking about a dynamic that hasn't gone our way.

And we start to potentially, and I'm not saying that you're doing this, but a lot of people start to potentially start going against

What they truly know is right for them morally and also like going against what they value in their own life like peace of mind for one and they start to go against that to try and mend it.

They go too far out on that limb to mend it and then that's when it starts to create cracks in your relationship with yourself.

So every time you have a relationship with absolutely anybody, you should always make sure that you're staying true to your own values, the things that you value in your life for you and your morals, okay?

So every time you think, but maybe I should have a relationship with this person, will it make one of those things crack for me?

Does having a relationship with this person mean that it's at the expense of my relationship with myself?

No relationship on earth

should come at the expense of the one you have with yourself not one ever okay so i don't care if it's your parent if it damages or or gets in the way of you having a really sound healthy relationship with yourself whether it impacts your peace of mind whether it increases your stress

whether it makes you unable to focus on other things throughout the day because you're so worried and stressed, whether it makes you feel whether this person belittles you, whether it impacts your confidence and your self-esteem, all these things, then that is a big indicator that maybe this relationship is not worth living.

salvaging.

Okay.

So these are the main things that you need to be reminding yourself of because the actual separating yourself from a one-sided relationship, it's just not easy because the ones that have to think hard about this separation are probably the ones that care.

It's because you care about this other person and you care about yourself and you've really tried.

That's why it is such, such a big thing for you to contemplate.

Because you have feelings and these feelings that, you know, you're a kind person.

Often other people who can cut someone out without hesitation, it's not really that hard for them because they don't care.

So if you're going through this caring thing, it's because, you know, you're a nice person overall in general, okay?