Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

Maybe you've always been someone who wore relatively conservative things and your version of adventure now is I'm going to redo my entire personal style.

I'm going to finally start wearing the shit that I think looks really awesome but I've always been too timid to wear that and that could be how you are adventurous.

You could start an anonymous blog and that's your adventure.

You could start whatever the fuck it is.

But I'm saying adventure is always a need and we have to figure out what that need is for us and feed it, okay?

So that's another priority.

Clarity is also a huge one.

This is the and then the rest you can kind of brainstorm on your own.

But these are the three that I wanted to give you as an idea.

Clarity.

When I, you know, had heartbreaks or quote unquote failures or rejections or being abandoned and all of that stuff.

The thing that it gave me ultimately after wasting a lot of time and emotions, you know, hoping that things would go back and all of that, it gave me clarity.

Then I started to realise the amount of time in my life that I've wasted, literally wasted, hoping for someone who I knew wasn't into me, knew wasn't right for me or a career that I knew wasn't going to be it for me.

Instead of just being like, instead of hoping and avoiding the real answer and

I need clarity because clarity might give you the heartbreak.

And what I mean by that, let's say you're in a situationship and you're so head over heels this person, but you're not getting the clear answers from them.

And the reason you don't want to confront them about getting clear answers because you're scared for them to say, you know what, I actually don't like you back in that way.

I don't want to be in a committed relationship with you.

So what do you do?

You avoid the difficult conversations so you can have the crumbs that they're giving you.