Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

Do my current relationships exhaust me or energize me?

How have I learned to be a top-tier friend and what am I going to do to make sure that I show up as that as often as possible?

Am I holding onto connections out of history or alignment?

Am I waiting for the right person to come around or am I making myself into the person more likely to cross paths with the right person?

Am I increasing my chances or am I just waiting?

So I want to go into that a little bit.

Sometimes we'll be so hell-bent on the kind of person we want to date, but we don't ask ourselves, would the person that I want to date want to date me?

Like if I want to date someone who's like driven, get up and go, this, that, I better be fucking showing up in the same way.

I fucking better be, okay?

You don't have to be the richest person in the world or this or that or whatever, but you've got to look at the traits that you really desire in a person and say, am I at the very minimum working on these traits or something that very heavily complements those traits?

Like if I want someone who's a career-driven person, who's successful, who's social, who's this, who's that, who's whatever,

Knowing the kind of person that I want, who do you think would complement them in a relationship?

Because if I'm not even that, then the likelihood is low.

So let's get real here, okay?

Am I waiting around for this dream person to land in my lap or am I actually becoming these traits that I really love in other people?

Am I gaining those for myself as well?

Really important, okay?

Okay.

Now, life design.

Put yourself in the shoes of your 40-year-old self or even the 35-year-old self, depending on how old you are as you're entering this, roughly five or 10 years into the future, okay?