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Alexis Ohanian

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
568 total appearances

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On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

You're pushing some weight and you're trying to get to that next level and it's going to hurt because that's where the muscles tear, but that's where it grows back stronger. And so I feel the same way when I take that, I'm like, ah, okay, fight the impulse. Don't be defensive and just listen and hear and try to understand. And, and I will say though, it's,

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

You're pushing some weight and you're trying to get to that next level and it's going to hurt because that's where the muscles tear, but that's where it grows back stronger. And so I feel the same way when I take that, I'm like, ah, okay, fight the impulse. Don't be defensive and just listen and hear and try to understand. And, and I will say though, it's,

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

and I've talked to other folks in interracial relationships, it is definitely, there's a dynamic there that creates new challenges, or even I think any cross-cultural relationship creates those challenges, I bet. I don't know if I was, I guess I'm a weird mid-Atlantic guy, but the difference between me and even a white person from Appalachia is going to have those cultural challenges, right?

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

and I've talked to other folks in interracial relationships, it is definitely, there's a dynamic there that creates new challenges, or even I think any cross-cultural relationship creates those challenges, I bet. I don't know if I was, I guess I'm a weird mid-Atlantic guy, but the difference between me and even a white person from Appalachia is going to have those cultural challenges, right?

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

But across those lines, that's where you get again, or with a relationship built on love, you get this opportunity to say, okay, like, let me try to learn and try to be a little better that I think helps. But like I said, it's probably the worst part is...

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

But across those lines, that's where you get again, or with a relationship built on love, you get this opportunity to say, okay, like, let me try to learn and try to be a little better that I think helps. But like I said, it's probably the worst part is...

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

the dynamic there's a reason we live in the middle of nowhere florida like i love being here in la but like i think we live in such a weird culture that you know the celebritization of things is just it's different and and one of the things that we always wanted for our girls is for them to have i mean they're not going to have a normal life but to not be living in it and and to have the ability to do that from

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

the dynamic there's a reason we live in the middle of nowhere florida like i love being here in la but like i think we live in such a weird culture that you know the celebritization of things is just it's different and and one of the things that we always wanted for our girls is for them to have i mean they're not going to have a normal life but to not be living in it and and to have the ability to do that from

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

you know, sort of the middle of nowhere Florida has been probably the biggest secret weapon.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

you know, sort of the middle of nowhere Florida has been probably the biggest secret weapon.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

You know, the challenge I had in previous relationships, the general theme was... I knew I was super ambitious. I was very upfront about it. But it still doesn't really land until three months in, six months in, nine months in, and you realize, oh, this guy is not going to change. And it seems like a fun thing for a little bit. And then at a certain amount, like eventually push comes to shove.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

You know, the challenge I had in previous relationships, the general theme was... I knew I was super ambitious. I was very upfront about it. But it still doesn't really land until three months in, six months in, nine months in, and you realize, oh, this guy is not going to change. And it seems like a fun thing for a little bit. And then at a certain amount, like eventually push comes to shove.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

And there's a gap because they โ€“ Didn't get it. And, and I, again, I, I don't think that's a right or wrong here, but it's a, it's an incompatibility. And part of what attracted me so much to Serena was the fact that I knew we would never have this conversation about like, well, why do you have to do this thing? Or why is this so important?

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

And there's a gap because they โ€“ Didn't get it. And, and I, again, I, I don't think that's a right or wrong here, but it's a, it's an incompatibility. And part of what attracted me so much to Serena was the fact that I knew we would never have this conversation about like, well, why do you have to do this thing? Or why is this so important?

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

Or like, why, what do you mean you have to get this done tonight? Like that could never happen because of everything she had to do in order to achieve the heights that she had gotten to. And so that to me was already very appealing because I was like, okay, this is table stakes. I have found someone who has clearly even more ambition than me, who has achieved so much. And in a way, so...

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

Or like, why, what do you mean you have to get this done tonight? Like that could never happen because of everything she had to do in order to achieve the heights that she had gotten to. And so that to me was already very appealing because I was like, okay, this is table stakes. I have found someone who has clearly even more ambition than me, who has achieved so much. And in a way, so...

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

I don't know if I'd say the same thing if I were an athlete. I think that might've been harder. But to be with someone like Serena, right? That's like literally one word. Like you don't even need to say her full name. It is tremendously liberating Because I know, and also because of who we are and where we come from, Jay, there is literally nothing I could do.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

I don't know if I'd say the same thing if I were an athlete. I think that might've been harder. But to be with someone like Serena, right? That's like literally one word. Like you don't even need to say her full name. It is tremendously liberating Because I know, and also because of who we are and where we come from, Jay, there is literally nothing I could do.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

I could, one day, God willing, I will be a billionaire. I will never run for president. But let's say I could be a billionaire who runs for president, and I'll still be Serena Williams' husband or Serena's husband, right? I could be an astronaut. It doesn't matter. It literally does not matter. And part of that is a testament to where she started.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Order to Succeed

I could, one day, God willing, I will be a billionaire. I will never run for president. But let's say I could be a billionaire who runs for president, and I'll still be Serena Williams' husband or Serena's husband, right? I could be an astronaut. It doesn't matter. It literally does not matter. And part of that is a testament to where she started.