Alfie Kohn
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first heard Oct 2018
last heard Oct 2018
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in the case of rewards, do this and you'll get that.
in it the best scenario is as long as kids think they're in danger of being punished or as long as they think there's a possibility they'll be rewarded
they may emit the behavior that the person with the power demands.
But no reward, no sticker, star chart, praise or threat of consequence can ever help children develop a commitment.
to good values or an interest in learning or a tendency to care about other people.
In fact, with that last example, research shows that rewards have exactly the opposite effect.
Children who are frequently rewarded or praised by their parents.
or less
caring and helpful than other children.
And the effect is most pronounced if you
reward or praise them for being helpful or generous.
Good job.
I like the way you were so nice to Diane and you gave her some of your dessert.
Well, that child just became a little more selfish.
Because by rewarding her for this, you made her less concerned about the impact of her actions on other people and more focused on the question, what am I gonna get for doing
you know, whatever it is that's the criterion for getting the reward.
See, when we do things like star charts and stickers and praise or various consequences, what we're mostly teaching children is I have the power to make you do whatever I decide unilaterally.
You have less power.
You're dependent on me.
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