Alison Cheperdak

Mm hmm.

I see what you're saying.

I will say, I do think it's encouraging to hear people like you who want to be approached.

I also, it's been a while since I was dating myself.

My husband and I have been married almost 13 years, but I write for Evie magazine and their next issue was all about like a return to romance and about women that want to be approached for sure and want these more traditional male, female relationships.

And yeah,

I do see the pendulum swinging somewhat.

Like I think we're seeing less of the like toxic masculinity courses at colleges and we're seeing more conversations around like has all the conversation around supporting women and girls, has it been to the detriment of young boys, which I don't think anyone wants that.

I think the more like I see, I see social media is very powerful in terms of impacting the culture.

And I am seeing more and more positive examples of relationships, whether it's celebrities or influencers, et cetera.

And so I see that as comforting as a move in that direction.

And I would also say have faith.

And that might sound like,

not like the thing that you want to hear, but have faith that your person is out there.

Like I so often, especially when I'm writing for Evie, I hear from women that are like, I want to meet a chivalrous man that has manners and like doesn't wear a hat and opens the door and, you know, all of these things.

And I think if you're, the more specific you can be and more dialed in and like, what are your standards and how do you want to be respected and loved?

And I

not waver and perhaps communicate that to someone who you meet that like, I often hear from women that are like, my brothers do this.

My dad did this.

I can't believe that my boyfriend who I love doesn't get it.