Alison Wood Brooks

If I forget to ask you for advice, I probably haven't served the goal that I was looking to achieve in that conversation. If I want to make you laugh, I need to raise topics that are going to be fun to talk about to make you laugh. So whatever your goals are, your topics should follow along with your intentions and just realizing that we're making these choices all the time. Now, a very...

If I forget to ask you for advice, I probably haven't served the goal that I was looking to achieve in that conversation. If I want to make you laugh, I need to raise topics that are going to be fun to talk about to make you laugh. So whatever your goals are, your topics should follow along with your intentions and just realizing that we're making these choices all the time. Now, a very...

important piece of advice is that people tend to stagnate too long on topics. And it's better on average to as soon as you feel like a topic is losing its juice to switch to something new and fresh and different to keep everybody engaged because mutual engagement matters so much. And on that note, I will switch topics to A is for asking.

important piece of advice is that people tend to stagnate too long on topics. And it's better on average to as soon as you feel like a topic is losing its juice to switch to something new and fresh and different to keep everybody engaged because mutual engagement matters so much. And on that note, I will switch topics to A is for asking.

important piece of advice is that people tend to stagnate too long on topics. And it's better on average to as soon as you feel like a topic is losing its juice to switch to something new and fresh and different to keep everybody engaged because mutual engagement matters so much. And on that note, I will switch topics to A is for asking.

A is for asking underscores how important question asking is in all of our conversations. Asking questions is one of the most powerful tools we have available to us in our toolkit. It's the best and most direct way to lure out the contents of another person's mind.

A is for asking underscores how important question asking is in all of our conversations. Asking questions is one of the most powerful tools we have available to us in our toolkit. It's the best and most direct way to lure out the contents of another person's mind.

A is for asking underscores how important question asking is in all of our conversations. Asking questions is one of the most powerful tools we have available to us in our toolkit. It's the best and most direct way to lure out the contents of another person's mind.

In the context of this conversation we're having, John, you're expected to ask me questions, but I can also break norms and ask you questions, which might make the conversation even more interactive and interesting. In the book, we talk about the power of asking more questions to understand other people's minds and to make them more feel like they matter.

In the context of this conversation we're having, John, you're expected to ask me questions, but I can also break norms and ask you questions, which might make the conversation even more interactive and interesting. In the book, we talk about the power of asking more questions to understand other people's minds and to make them more feel like they matter.

In the context of this conversation we're having, John, you're expected to ask me questions, but I can also break norms and ask you questions, which might make the conversation even more interactive and interesting. In the book, we talk about the power of asking more questions to understand other people's minds and to make them more feel like they matter.

But we also talk about the types of questions and the patterns of questions that are most effective. And so I'll just hint at two of them. One is follow-up questions. Once someone has shared something about themselves, it's so important to ask another question after that to show that you heard them, to show that you care about them, and that you want to learn more.

But we also talk about the types of questions and the patterns of questions that are most effective. And so I'll just hint at two of them. One is follow-up questions. Once someone has shared something about themselves, it's so important to ask another question after that to show that you heard them, to show that you care about them, and that you want to learn more.

But we also talk about the types of questions and the patterns of questions that are most effective. And so I'll just hint at two of them. One is follow-up questions. Once someone has shared something about themselves, it's so important to ask another question after that to show that you heard them, to show that you care about them, and that you want to learn more.

So follow-up questions are superheroes. And then the second great pattern of question asking that I would recommend would be open-ended questions. So closed and open questions all have a place in conversation, but open-ended questions are the ones that we remember. So if I say to you, John, what was your episode about bipolar? What was the most meaningful thing about that episode to you?

So follow-up questions are superheroes. And then the second great pattern of question asking that I would recommend would be open-ended questions. So closed and open questions all have a place in conversation, but open-ended questions are the ones that we remember. So if I say to you, John, what was your episode about bipolar? What was the most meaningful thing about that episode to you?

So follow-up questions are superheroes. And then the second great pattern of question asking that I would recommend would be open-ended questions. So closed and open questions all have a place in conversation, but open-ended questions are the ones that we remember. So if I say to you, John, what was your episode about bipolar? What was the most meaningful thing about that episode to you?

What did you learn? And then you'd give me an answer. I don't actually want to go there right now. But if that kind of question, if I were to let you answer and we let the conversation go there, it's the kind of thing that you would remember, right? It would allow you to share your perspective, something that you learned. I would ask you follow up questions about it.

What did you learn? And then you'd give me an answer. I don't actually want to go there right now. But if that kind of question, if I were to let you answer and we let the conversation go there, it's the kind of thing that you would remember, right? It would allow you to share your perspective, something that you learned. I would ask you follow up questions about it.

What did you learn? And then you'd give me an answer. I don't actually want to go there right now. But if that kind of question, if I were to let you answer and we let the conversation go there, it's the kind of thing that you would remember, right? It would allow you to share your perspective, something that you learned. I would ask you follow up questions about it.