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We both got dressed.
My car was still parked blocks away and down a hill.
So he drove me to my car and said something about like, we should go out sometime or we should do that again.
Something to that effect.
I just was like, yeah, sure.
Got in my car, drove home.
to my on-campus apartment and showered, which I guess I'll just put out as a PSA is if you've been sexually assaulted, it's really best to try to preserve that evidence, that DNA, and go to the hospital and get an exam done as soon as possible.
I was not really educated about those things at the time and obviously in shock and not really processing things.
I think it's really hard to take ownership of a word like rape and sexual assault.
I think it's worth mentioning that my freshman year, I had experienced abuse.
sexual assault with a photographer that had worked with other dancers at my university so I thought he was a safe person and he was not and he came on to me during the photo shoot and
offered me alcohol as a 18-year-old, and just things that shouldn't have happened.
After I'd come to terms with what had happened to me, I went to the department heads and said, hey, this happened to me.
Would you be willing to put out something to the other dancers saying, don't work with this guy, he's not safe?
And they didn't want to do that because they were worried about defamation.
I had felt very powerless and like I just had no options and no way of proving that experience.
I had told Justin about that situation.
So he knew in that way that I was vulnerable.
To call it what it was, was very challenging for me in that moment.
I was very much resisting that because at the time, this was a person that I presumed was going to get into his legacy fraternity.