Allegra

So we were all very interconnected and I just didn't want him around or around other women.

And if he got into this fraternity, he would have unlimited access.

He was a pretty sweet guy.

He was surprisingly easy to talk to and very gentle with me and basically portrayed to me that this was the final strike in a series of red flags that they had already felt from him.

There was nothing that had been reported to them that was obviously as extreme as this, but other women in other houses had had kind of strange interactions with him that did get back to the fraternity.

They weren't super keen on having him join, and this was the nail in that proverbial coffin.

I think the only thing that had been holding them up in letting him in or not was, well, number one, it wasn't recruitment time yet.

And two, because he was a legacy.

I ended up telling my parents next.

That was another thing that was really hard and a component that held up my processing of it all, I think.

They had known about the photographer and I didn't want to say, hey, something happened again because it's embarrassing and it's exhausting.

I didn't want it to come across to them as like, I don't have it together.

I was concerned that I would be blamed for getting myself into another situation.

sticky situation but I did end up deciding to tell my mom because I thought she was going to figure out something was up because I was not my normal self how could I be she encouraged me to get an exam done she just wanted me to make sure that I was medically checked out

He did not use any sort of protection.

So she was concerned about STIs and pregnancy.

I was using a form of birth control at the time, but we all know nothing is 100% effective.

I was adjudicating a competition team audition for a local studio in the town that Western University is located in.

So we were on lunch break and she called me and said, I think you should get checked out.

And I said, okay, I'll go tomorrow.