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Allegra

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
531 total appearances

Appearances Over Time

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Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

When did you initially meet Justin?

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

We matched on Tinder the spring of 2017.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

I don't even remember his Tinder profile, but I think I thought he was handsome.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

We ended up connecting on Instagram as well and following one another and then doing some DMs.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

There was a chapter of his legacy fraternity at Western University.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

And so he was in the process of trying to join that chapter.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

Wow.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

Legacy means that your father, grandfather, brother, in the case of a fraternity, were in this Greek organization, which isn't something that's widely used anymore due to the DE&I initiatives that we've implemented in Greek life, which I think is a good thing.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

But at that time, legacy was very important to us.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

I was planning on staying for the summer.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

So I was looking for friends and other people in the different communities that I was a part of, like Greek life, for example, who would be around in the summer and making some new friendships or continuing with my old friendships, just having a good social dynamic set up for myself for the summer.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

My experience was that if someone was a part of a fraternity, I felt like they were vetted to some degree.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

Which, looking back on it now, that makes no sense.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

Because it's not like they were getting a background check or anything like that.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

If you portray yourself to be a certain way and have a couple beers with the guys and they think you're cool, then you're in.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

From what I recall, it was weird that he was a student athlete at his first university and then transferred to Western where he stopped being a student athlete before the spring semester had even ended is when we just had a couple messages back and forth.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

The messaging was very brief, and maybe a few months prior to when I actually met him, that, you know, finals and other things I was preoccupied with, he just kind of slipped my mind.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

Fast forward to the end of May, which is when my assault took place.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

The only time I ever met him in person was the night that he raped me, which is so crazy to say.

Something Was Wrong
S25 Ep17: Chapter 4: Weaponizing the Patriarchy

Can you walk us through that night?