Alyssa Nobriga

Yeah. I think there's upper limits and lower limits. I think there's this safe zone, this comfort zone, which is an illusion, but it's what we've known. And part of the work psychologically has been to insource that safety. So to really meet that younger one, to let her know that she is safe, that she can feel exactly as she's feeling, that she doesn't need to be any different.

Yeah. I think there's upper limits and lower limits. I think there's this safe zone, this comfort zone, which is an illusion, but it's what we've known. And part of the work psychologically has been to insource that safety. So to really meet that younger one, to let her know that she is safe, that she can feel exactly as she's feeling, that she doesn't need to be any different.

That has been incredibly powerful for me. Not only is it instant, like securing the insecurity. It's instant, it feels empowering, and then I don't need other things to be okay, which I can't control and manage. But I just go to a deeper sense of being okay with her being exactly as she is, her not needing to be different.

That has been incredibly powerful for me. Not only is it instant, like securing the insecurity. It's instant, it feels empowering, and then I don't need other things to be okay, which I can't control and manage. But I just go to a deeper sense of being okay with her being exactly as she is, her not needing to be different.

That has been incredibly powerful for me. Not only is it instant, like securing the insecurity. It's instant, it feels empowering, and then I don't need other things to be okay, which I can't control and manage. But I just go to a deeper sense of being okay with her being exactly as she is, her not needing to be different.

And one of the things that I love, this is a practice that our therapist taught us, which is sometimes when we have old traumas, we can go back to them to whatever age they were at. and ask if they want to come to our current day self to see what life turns out like. And that's been really helpful. Like there's been so many moments of just being like, wow, look how it turned out.

And one of the things that I love, this is a practice that our therapist taught us, which is sometimes when we have old traumas, we can go back to them to whatever age they were at. and ask if they want to come to our current day self to see what life turns out like. And that's been really helpful. Like there's been so many moments of just being like, wow, look how it turned out.

And one of the things that I love, this is a practice that our therapist taught us, which is sometimes when we have old traumas, we can go back to them to whatever age they were at. and ask if they want to come to our current day self to see what life turns out like. And that's been really helpful. Like there's been so many moments of just being like, wow, look how it turned out.

And to know that, that I'm okay. And that, you know, she gets to be with us as parents in a way that she needed some parenting that, you know, get to reparent her essentially is my job now. And so that prompt and that invitation. So yes, Offering her the assurance that she needed is helpful in sourcing that, but then also taking her along to be like, do you want to see my life now?

And to know that, that I'm okay. And that, you know, she gets to be with us as parents in a way that she needed some parenting that, you know, get to reparent her essentially is my job now. And so that prompt and that invitation. So yes, Offering her the assurance that she needed is helpful in sourcing that, but then also taking her along to be like, do you want to see my life now?

And to know that, that I'm okay. And that, you know, she gets to be with us as parents in a way that she needed some parenting that, you know, get to reparent her essentially is my job now. And so that prompt and that invitation. So yes, Offering her the assurance that she needed is helpful in sourcing that, but then also taking her along to be like, do you want to see my life now?

Do you want to be with us now? And it's been something for people to try on. I think it's really beautiful.

Do you want to be with us now? And it's been something for people to try on. I think it's really beautiful.

Do you want to be with us now? And it's been something for people to try on. I think it's really beautiful.

Share anything that you see, honestly.

Share anything that you see, honestly.

Share anything that you see, honestly.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.