Alyssa Nobriga

And so one way to do that, maybe on a spiritual level, and maybe this is where you were going was also to see what the gifts were. What was this mirroring to me about what was in my own subconscious and how do I use this to heal that pattern inside of me? Because I often will say, stop focusing on the person. What's the pattern that's playing out. Right.

Because if we judge the person, then we're stuck on the surface. And if we go to the deeper thing, it's like, what's the pattern that's playing out and how can I resolve that inside of me? I'll get the lesson I can move on or I'll get the lesson and the whole pattern will shift with that person because I've now gotten the lesson from it. But you're right. It's not like we're accepting it.

Because if we judge the person, then we're stuck on the surface. And if we go to the deeper thing, it's like, what's the pattern that's playing out and how can I resolve that inside of me? I'll get the lesson I can move on or I'll get the lesson and the whole pattern will shift with that person because I've now gotten the lesson from it. But you're right. It's not like we're accepting it.

Because if we judge the person, then we're stuck on the surface. And if we go to the deeper thing, it's like, what's the pattern that's playing out and how can I resolve that inside of me? I'll get the lesson I can move on or I'll get the lesson and the whole pattern will shift with that person because I've now gotten the lesson from it. But you're right. It's not like we're accepting it.

We're not a doormat. We have boundaries, but we can still learn from it. Or we could leave or stay, but we're doing it from a place of peace and alignment. So if somebody cheated on me and that's not an agreement that I'm willing to forgive, then I can still come into acceptance this happened, but I could leave feeling pissed off or at peace. The leaving is the same.

We're not a doormat. We have boundaries, but we can still learn from it. Or we could leave or stay, but we're doing it from a place of peace and alignment. So if somebody cheated on me and that's not an agreement that I'm willing to forgive, then I can still come into acceptance this happened, but I could leave feeling pissed off or at peace. The leaving is the same.

We're not a doormat. We have boundaries, but we can still learn from it. Or we could leave or stay, but we're doing it from a place of peace and alignment. So if somebody cheated on me and that's not an agreement that I'm willing to forgive, then I can still come into acceptance this happened, but I could leave feeling pissed off or at peace. The leaving is the same.

The inner experience, the acceptance is what I would do or the forgiveness is what affects me.

The inner experience, the acceptance is what I would do or the forgiveness is what affects me.

The inner experience, the acceptance is what I would do or the forgiveness is what affects me.

And the drama that you tell to your friends about and you perpetuate and you keep hurting yourself.

And the drama that you tell to your friends about and you perpetuate and you keep hurting yourself.

And the drama that you tell to your friends about and you perpetuate and you keep hurting yourself.

And if everybody, if nobody has read A New Earth, best book in the world, by far.

And if everybody, if nobody has read A New Earth, best book in the world, by far.

And if everybody, if nobody has read A New Earth, best book in the world, by far.

Righteousness, yeah.

Righteousness, yeah.

Righteousness, yeah.

When you do the work. And I think it's important to also have space for the anger and to have your honest feelings and express them, but in a conscious way. So we have the anger, but we don't live there. We express it. And then it's like, now what do I want to look at? How do I use this for my growth and healing?