Alyssa Nobriga

So when I was getting my internship and getting licensed to become a marriage and family therapist, I studied Imago psychotherapy, which I know you love. And for those that don't know, Imago, literally the word Imago means image in Latin. So this is the theory that we attract somebody who mirrors the parent or caregiver that we had a hard time with growing up so that we can heal.

So when I was getting my internship and getting licensed to become a marriage and family therapist, I studied Imago psychotherapy, which I know you love. And for those that don't know, Imago, literally the word Imago means image in Latin. So this is the theory that we attract somebody who mirrors the parent or caregiver that we had a hard time with growing up so that we can heal.

So when I was getting my internship and getting licensed to become a marriage and family therapist, I studied Imago psychotherapy, which I know you love. And for those that don't know, Imago, literally the word Imago means image in Latin. So this is the theory that we attract somebody who mirrors the parent or caregiver that we had a hard time with growing up so that we can heal.

But I know that Shay, you love this work as well. I would love to hear you explain it just to help everybody get on the same page. Like why do we attract who we attract? let's give a little bit of like context for our conversation.

But I know that Shay, you love this work as well. I would love to hear you explain it just to help everybody get on the same page. Like why do we attract who we attract? let's give a little bit of like context for our conversation.

But I know that Shay, you love this work as well. I would love to hear you explain it just to help everybody get on the same page. Like why do we attract who we attract? let's give a little bit of like context for our conversation.

I love this because then people can hear this and they don't think that having issues or challenges in relationship is bad. It's like, Oh, your partner is mirroring to you. Those score themes that are looking to be healed within you. So I find that there's two schools of thought. There's like the, I'm a hundred percent responsible for my needs.

I love this because then people can hear this and they don't think that having issues or challenges in relationship is bad. It's like, Oh, your partner is mirroring to you. Those score themes that are looking to be healed within you. So I find that there's two schools of thought. There's like the, I'm a hundred percent responsible for my needs.

I love this because then people can hear this and they don't think that having issues or challenges in relationship is bad. It's like, Oh, your partner is mirroring to you. Those score themes that are looking to be healed within you. So I find that there's two schools of thought. There's like the, I'm a hundred percent responsible for my needs.

And then there's the, if it was triggered in a relationship, it should be healed in a relationship. And I feel like we went from codependence to hyper independence. Like it almost pendulum swung and they're both trauma responses. And yeah, it's innocent, like they're protective mechanisms. I'm like a yes and.

And then there's the, if it was triggered in a relationship, it should be healed in a relationship. And I feel like we went from codependence to hyper independence. Like it almost pendulum swung and they're both trauma responses. And yeah, it's innocent, like they're protective mechanisms. I'm like a yes and.

And then there's the, if it was triggered in a relationship, it should be healed in a relationship. And I feel like we went from codependence to hyper independence. Like it almost pendulum swung and they're both trauma responses. And yeah, it's innocent, like they're protective mechanisms. I'm like a yes and.

So I find that having the tools to learn how to heal it at the root inside of me is helpful because like you're saying, we're puzzle pieces. So if my partner's triggered, I might be triggered at the very same time and it'd be really hard for us to overcome and meet each other's needs in that moment. If somebody has the maturity, the willingness, the ability to do that, you can heal in relationship.

So I find that having the tools to learn how to heal it at the root inside of me is helpful because like you're saying, we're puzzle pieces. So if my partner's triggered, I might be triggered at the very same time and it'd be really hard for us to overcome and meet each other's needs in that moment. If somebody has the maturity, the willingness, the ability to do that, you can heal in relationship.

So I find that having the tools to learn how to heal it at the root inside of me is helpful because like you're saying, we're puzzle pieces. So if my partner's triggered, I might be triggered at the very same time and it'd be really hard for us to overcome and meet each other's needs in that moment. If somebody has the maturity, the willingness, the ability to do that, you can heal in relationship.

But Like you're saying, it's going to be really hard. So like to ground it for me, my husband, who I have permission to share this, one of his core wounds and triggers is that he didn't feel important growing up because his dad was really busy. So he used to unconsciously try to find that core wound through me.

But Like you're saying, it's going to be really hard. So like to ground it for me, my husband, who I have permission to share this, one of his core wounds and triggers is that he didn't feel important growing up because his dad was really busy. So he used to unconsciously try to find that core wound through me.

But Like you're saying, it's going to be really hard. So like to ground it for me, my husband, who I have permission to share this, one of his core wounds and triggers is that he didn't feel important growing up because his dad was really busy. So he used to unconsciously try to find that core wound through me.

And then when that would happen, because I felt overly responsible for my mom's needs growing up and I would get abandoned. it would trigger me because I felt needed. And so that was the puzzle piece of how that was playing out. And if I just went to tend to his needs, I overrode mine. I would have been re-traumatizing myself the way I used to as a kid.

And then when that would happen, because I felt overly responsible for my mom's needs growing up and I would get abandoned. it would trigger me because I felt needed. And so that was the puzzle piece of how that was playing out. And if I just went to tend to his needs, I overrode mine. I would have been re-traumatizing myself the way I used to as a kid.