Alyssa

But then him going to therapy.

And wanting to try to work on it is like, okay, well, maybe there's like a glimmer of hope.

But I've also heard you be like, there should be hope in relationships.

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

yeah no you're right and I agree like that relationship sounds like they have a lot there's more work that they're putting in and he's putting in and then yeah my husband is he's just more like I can't take care of you or the kids if my emotional well-being isn't

Yeah, and I remember, like, my therapist says that to me all the time.

She's like, you've done so much and you're so loyal and you're so loving and you've come a long way from, like, when I first met you when

you put in the work and he's doing the same thing.

Oh yeah.

I can see that.

Yeah.

So as like friend advice, would you say to keep holding on to hope or would you just-

Well, he would rather be a better dad than be a better husband.

Yeah.

I don't think he knows how to do that I think him working away like causes him to and and I know our therapist was like is there any way you could take a leave or whatever so you can be home and work on this and see and just financially like we can't we're not there like I can't make the money he makes he makes so much money so this is just a slow process but for sure like

Yeah.

And I know I've heard you say that on like a call.

She gave like three years to like her boyfriend or something like to be engaged.