Alyssa

Thanks.

He's definitely an avoidant.

We are going to be counseling.

And he's definitely avoided.

So he definitely is at his cup.

He's at his full cup.

So he's at a capacity where he can't handle me and my emotions.

So he feels like getting his own place will help him get peace and calmness and perspective on everything.

Our couples counselor therapist thinks it's unfair.

because we were supposed to be working on things.

And she doesn't get why we didn't just try to sell the house and find something different that could be suitable for him and have more space.

Because our house we live in is where you're on top of each other.

You don't really have space to get away.

And then his counselor, he gets away half the month, every month.

yeah yeah he's away for about 16 days and then he's home for 11 and this this this has always been the case with you guys okay so yeah my daughter was two and our so well our daughter was two and our son was one when he started working away so he's been working away for at least seven years

It comes down to money, finances.

Because I don't like change.

That was another thing that he's upset with.

He's always wanted to move somewhere else that would benefit us financially, but I am just scared of moving away from my family, my support system.

Because he's away most of the time.